How To Restore Strength And Energy

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There are days when we feel neither strength nor energy inside.

What is devastating us?

- Guilt

- Doubts

- Self-digging, which is repeated nonstop

- Self-flagellation

- Self-criticism and criticism of others

- Chatting with people who constantly complain

- Fear to say or do something

- Fear of rejection

- Comparing yourself to others

- Suppression of desires and emotions

- Lack of sleep

- Lack of quality nutrition

- Unfinished business

The first thing to do is to analyze your sources of loss of strength and energy. Depending on this, take further steps.

And now there are short recommendations for each item.

• If you feel guilty, look at the situation from the perspective of responsibility. Who carries it under the circumstances. Ask for help from other people. How they see the state of affairs in terms of distribution of responsibility. In this way, you will add some objectivity to your situation.
• When in doubt, write your choices on pieces of paper (what you choose between). Fold the leaves, stir and, with your eyes closed, draw out one. Track the first reaction: joy (relief), or dissatisfaction, doubt. If the second option, then you want what is written on the other leaf. If there are more than 2 options, choose until joy appears inside.
• Many of us have a habit of digging into different situations and thinking about what we did wrong. I think the origins of this, in my opinion, bad habit lie in the parental phrase "go and think over your behavior." And what to think about is not clear. Which of my behavior caused discontent? We were not taught causal relationships, in deliberation and fortune-telling you can "dig up" a lot of things. The child is by nature curious and inquisitive. It is very difficult for him to think about behavior. He has so many actions that it is completely unclear which of them is exactly what he should think about.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to see a specialist. The psychotherapist will tell you what you “need to think about”.

• Self-flagellation is as bad a habit as self-digging. But if during self-digging you can still “dig up” something and do something about it, then by self-flagellation you only destroy yourself. I know that those who like to do this find it very difficult for them to refuse it. Therefore, consult a specialist.
• Self-criticism and criticism of others. There are two points: turn off the voice of the critic inside you (or rather, come to an agreement with him) and try to avoid those who criticize. On the second, it is important to understand that for many criticism is almost equal to love. One way or another, we still come into contact with criticism. On the one hand, you need to learn how to suppress it, and on the other hand, to study why people criticize, and not take too much on yourself.
• You form a circle of friends. You also have the right to choose who you communicate with and who you don't. And there is nothing wrong with that. Surround yourself in life only with those people with whom you gain strength and energy together.
• Transform all fears into what you really want (see my article on fears). Remember that there are 2 types of fear: rational and irrational. Rational is when there is a threat to life. This is the only fear there can be. All the rest are unjustified fears.
• Comparing ourselves with others is quite meaningless, since we are we and will never be those with whom we compare ourselves. Compare yourself with yourself, with the version of yourself that you were a year ago, a month ago, and outline a plan for developing yourself. Every time you check the box about your achievements, your strength and energy will grow.
• Each repressed emotion is not really repressed at all, it is always with you and is looking for a way out. The best thing you can do is let her come out in a sustainable way, caring for those around her.
• Try to realize your desires. Nothing just comes to your mind. So make a list of your desires and a plan to make them come true.
• Quality sleep and nutrition fill you with strength and energy. Explore foods that take your energy (sugar, flour products, fast foods, etc.)
• If you can't finish the case today, write it down and cross it out. That way, you will have relief on the inside for today, and tomorrow you will put it back on your to-do list.

In addition to the above, the following will help: water (shower, bathing, swimming in a pond); switch to tea drinking with contemplation of nature (if possible, go outside, or just look out the window); remember the place where you felt good, mentally stay there until you feel a surge of strength.