Negative People. Identification

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

By no means by the will of fate, but only by my own choice, I sometimes have to communicate with negative people. I feel myself inside the experiment. It would be different, for a long time I could have moved down to their level of perception of life, where everything is gloomy, depressing, and no matter how good it is, it's still bad. Because negativity is infectious like the flu. Even worse. There are pills for the flu. They have not yet learned how to cure the negative - the patient himself must realize it in himself and, if he wants a different, colorful and full-fledged life, he himself go to it, throwing off the negative clothes of his personality.

So that's it. What did I manage to find out about what was already clear. Just being inside a situation is a completely different matter than just knowing about it or observing it from the outside.

1. A negative person is always right.

2. If the negative person is wrong, he will purse his lips, lower his eyes, be silent for a long time and will wait until you turn your gaze to the first point.

3. If you are doing a good deed for a negative person, then you are doing stupid things and wasting the time of your life - he will not appreciate. Moreover, it will also tell you how badly you did it. Because everyone owes him. And especially you.

4. If you do not do a good deed, you will also be bad. But not as bad as if you did this good deed.

5. He will never ask you to do a good deed for him - you yourself must see and know. And at the same time read his thoughts. And if you don't see, he is unlikely to forgive you.

6. When you want to tell something to a negative person - well, others are not around, but oh, how you want to tell! - about your trip to the store, hobby, or just to make you laugh, surprise you with a funny story, they will listen to you, anticipating reprisals against you, and they will certainly ask with a shade of condemnation: “Why do you need a lot of bags (shoes, glasses, baubles …)?”, “And what have you forgotten in that Washington (San Francisco, Hawaii, Orlando …)? Everything is the same everywhere … "," How can you trust people!"

7. Sometimes it happens that you show miracles of naivety and total ignorance in some everyday issue. Dont be upset! The negative person will definitely show you your place: “You are a psychologist! You write books! How can you reason like that ?!"

8. A negative person is a super-literate person. He knows all the rules of grammar, historical grammar, spelling, spelling and syntax with punctuation. God forbid to argue with him on this issue! "Where did you get this -" in Ukraine "?! All my life it was - in Ukraine! How much is possible ?! Where did these new rules come from ?!" the word is - "put"? There is no such word in the Russian language!"

9. A negative person can be kind by nature, share with you in a brotherly way what God has sent, but when you ask him where you can buy this yummy, you want to treat him too! - he will quietly smile to himself, it is important to puff out his cheeks, but he will never give you the coordinates of the outlet.

10. And when a funny SMS comes to him, he will read to himself for a long time, laugh, exclaim “ay, Edik! ah yes son of a bitch!”, again laughing loudly. In your naturally presence. But it would never occur to him to add you to his fun.

11. Of course, for him all around are morons, dumb and idiots. Of course, he will competently tell you about all the shortcomings in the work of builders, plumbers, gardeners, teachers, doctors and various other workers. Therefore, get ready for the fact that he will certainly discuss your human and professional qualities with someone.

12. We must give him his due: a negative person always has his own doctor, dentist, lawyer, greenery seller, butcher and milkman. Without a doubt, they are the coolest pros - and the negative person does not spare the highest praise for them. No, not because they are good specialists, but because they serve exactly him.

13. Wherever a negative person lives, everything will be bad for him. In the Soviet Union, he scolded the communists and waited for a bright time when the Americans would come and conquer everyone. Communism is over - it scolds the damned capitalists. He himself moved to the promised America - now she scolds her, almost canonizing the communists.

14. The same applies to time: the most vague, darkest and most terrible is the present. All the best has already happened and it cannot be returned … You can only remember, cry and talk about it … For a long time and with rapture, almost experiencing an orgasm.

15. And of course! A negative person always has someone extreme. To take responsibility for everything that happens to him - no, this burden is unbearable and unbearable.

Okay, that's enough. I think the identification has taken place. Now we have to do something with this, somehow live.

There are two ways out.

1. Run. Don't let the negativity consume you. It is very difficult to pull up to the high peaks of positive, but to flop into the swamp of negative is very difficult. Do not have time to shout "mom". The negative is sucked in like a quagmire.

2. You cannot run - look for the meanings. Staying around negative people means you need it for something good. You will find the answer - consider the vaccination done. Now “nothing can knock you out of the saddle!” And try not to judge a negative person. Behind the guise of negativism is often a vulnerable, lonely, restless child who has found the best protection and peace of mind for himself.