People And People

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

What happens in psychotherapy can be divided into two parts, the therapist part and the client part. Yes, together, these two parts form something whole, called a therapeutic alliance, which serves as a prerequisite for the desired changes in the client.

The alliance includes two people, two personalities with their own set of characteristics, two independent units.

On the one hand, there is a client, with his experiences, expectations and with his multifaceted and unique life, and he, and only he, can be an expert and the best guide in his life.

On the other hand, there is a psychotherapist. He, like the client, is also endowed with his own set of characteristics and he also has a network of his own questions and his answers.

It is believed that psychotherapy in its pure form does not imply "transfer and countertransference" of what the psychologist has to what the client has and back.

Seeing a person in front of you and at the same time being a person yourself. Lead a dialogue, not a discussion. Show empathy.

To function on the verge of human-function. On the one hand, a psychotherapist is a person, on the other hand, he performs a certain function of a mirror in psychotherapy. In the mirror, we are used to seeing our reflection, without distortion.

In all this there is a certain element of duality, when you are both a person and a function (mirror) at the same time. Yes, in this case, the mirror cannot lose its human outlines and forms, and it cannot be reduced solely to function, since it, a mirror, evokes feelings and emotions by its very presence. The same cannot be said about a real functional object.

This facet, animate-inanimate, personality-function, makes me think and feel, where is it, this golden mean, where, that state when it will be possible to stay in the conditional state of wave-particle duality, to be both at the same time.

This is a very interesting moral and ethical question.

The client comes to an individual and receives functional assistance. The client wants to communicate with a person, but with a person who performs the function.

The most interesting and paradoxical thing in psychotherapy for me is that there is the possibility of "transference-countertransference" and there is an understanding of how not to enter this area. Balance on the edge, like an acrobat over an abyss, walk gently and confidently, not succumb to the influence of winds and fear of falling into the abyss of another person's consciousness. This is a very charged place in therapy.

Yes, there are moments when you fall down or fall up, and in either case you hit the bottom or the ceiling painfully. The sensation of a blow to the head, noticed in time, helps to orient oneself and to stand on one's feet. The main thing is to catch these feelings, to notice that you are no longer where you should be. There are times when a psychotherapist, so carried away by himself, forgets to take off his helmet or golden crown from his head, and this very fall upward takes on the features of a prolonged suspended state in which it is pleasant to arrive.

Sometimes, the line is blurred, and the flow of narcissistic glory, mixed, carries the psychotherapist to the shores of fabulous uniqueness, to the distant lands of prosperity and his own greatness.

In this profession, it is very difficult to be who you could be and not be who you would like to become.

Perhaps, I have now developed an understanding for myself that as a psychotherapist, first of all, I have an understanding of myself, who I am, where I am, how I am. This understanding gives me the opportunity to see myself in this world and understand what I am and that there is someone else, who is mine and not mine. Understanding and feeling yourself allows you to understand and feel others. This feeling, it is on this verge, a person-person, this understanding, it is on the verge, a person-person, and on this border for me the work of a psychotherapist takes place.

When a client comes into therapy, he usually has no question as to how moral the therapist is or how willing he is to be “inert” with the client. All this becomes clear in the course of therapy, when the client has some thoughts and feelings as to him with this therapist.

The sense of harmony cannot be faked. A sense of acceptance and understanding, a sense of oneself, is what the client can get in therapy, and this is what a psychotherapist, a human psychotherapist, can give.