2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I'll start with a story about the experiment. The volunteers who agreed to take part in the experiment were placed in a room where they had to just be, doing nothing. Among them was a man with a task that others did not know about.
His task was to walk in this room along a certain route. Very soon everyone, without realizing it, began to follow him along a given route.
These are people. The same experiment was repeated with cockroaches. The route was laid by a mechanical cockroach. The result was the same. That people, that cockroaches follow those who are more confident than others in their righteousness, in their actions. This can be called the key to leadership.
Shakespeare said: "All life is a game, and the people in it are actors." We'll add - actors can be different: good and bad. Each actor has his own script, which he brings to life.
What roles do you play in life?
The one who plays his part better forces others to play according to his own script. Moreover, this happens unconsciously, because if we are aware of this, then it becomes possible to leave the stage and leave someone else's game.
There is an expression: "The king is made by the retinue." In this case, it is appropriate to say that the retinue plays its role better. If everyone around you begins to see the king in you, then even if you did not believe in it before, but only pretended to, then very soon you will begin to believe in it.
In such a science as victimology, it is argued that the victims themselves, by their behavior, attract tyrants to themselves - since the victims play their role very well.
From my practice, I know of many cases of domestic violence. Talking to these people, I noticed they have a role of victim, which they play well. And the point is not even that they choose tyrants for themselves - but that they can force any man to play the role of a tyrant.
Our destiny, life scenario, depends on understanding and managing this process of the game. You need to understand in whose scenarios and what roles are you playing? If you are not satisfied with the scenario or the role assigned to you, then you should look for a way out of this production.
We must remember that there is no way without roles, we constantly play roles. The important thing here is the ability to step out of a role that you don't like.
Often in life, several people can apply for the same role. The winner in this case is the one who better fulfills this role, forcing others to play according to his script.
Either you play the roles, or the roles are played by you.
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