Sexual Education Of Children

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Why do parents avoid sexual questions from their children?

Because this is a question that adults are embarrassed to answer. After all, we, parents, interpret and understand the topic of sex by our own standards, “adults”. It is very difficult to explain all the processes at the children's level. So it turns out that dad sends to mom for an answer, and mom to dad.

At what age should you start sex education for your child?

As soon as your child asks you a question on this topic, then it's time. And it doesn't matter how old he will be, 3 years old, or 7 years old. The difference will be in the methods of clarification. For a 3-year-old toddler, it will be enough to tell about what there are boys and girls, to show in the children's enceclopedia which parts of the body both have and to allow your baby to consider himself and everything that he has. If the child is 6-8 years old, then you can talk about the plot of love. In this regard, I really like the children's enceclopedia "All About This". It is designed for children of different ages. Therefore, you can find answers to many questions and even good pictures, and this is important for children. I would also like to point out such a moment as the manner in which adults respond. You need to speak without chewing words, loudly, but at the same time calmly, as if you were answering the question about, for example, why cabbage is a vegetable. So that the child does not hear notes of embarrassment or shame on this topic. It's hard to start, and during the conversation, looking at the reaction of your child, you will understand that not everything is so scary. I always tell my parents an anecdote on this topic: “A 5-year-old kid comes up to his mother and asks:“Mom, what is an abortion? Mom, bewildered, asks her son to come up in the evening to explain to him. Itself, meanwhile, picks up all the dictionaries, books. Mom starts to panic in the evening. The baby comes up again with the same question. And then my mother decided to clarify: "Son, where did you hear this word?" To which the son replies: "Uncle sang on the radio -" And the waves are beating against the side of the ship! " J

How to correctly answer the child's question “where do children come from”?

Again, it depends on the age of the child, since the perception of the world in children depends on age and their development. If this is a 5-6 year old child (this question is unlikely to arise earlier, because the chain of cause and effect is formed in children after 4 years of age), explanations at the level “mom and dad met, fell in love with each other will be enough. And when people love each other, the Lord sends them a baby. Mom becomes pregnant, carries a baby in her tummy, after a while he is born. So you were born here. When the child is older, then you can tell that men and women differ in their physiological structure (Do not forget that you are not a student, therefore you do not need to throw mysterious and incomprehensible terms). Again, it is better to resort to literature (for children), where there are enough pictures and everything is written in clear language (for children). But we need to talk about it. If the child does not find the answers to his questions with you, he will definitely find them outside the house. But they will be distorted enough, and often can injure the baby. Therefore, no one will do it better than a parent!

When does interest in children begin to show in their sexual characteristics?

This interest consciously begins to manifest itself from the age of 3. It is at this age that the child begins to identify himself. Determine what gender he belongs to. He begins to compare himself with either dad or mom (when asked, he answers that he is a boy or a girl). If the child wants to examine his body parts, let him do it. He will satisfy his interest and at this stage his knowledge of the body will end. If a child is shamed and not allowed to do this, then he can often climb into his pants, touch himself. And at the stage of growing up, these inhibitions can result in sexual dysfunction. So be careful! Do not forget that for children, the genitals are the same part of the body as a leg, no more than a hand. Therefore, allow them to accept all of themselves, without a ban on anything.

At what age do boys and girls become puberty? How old can you be sexually active?

Puberty for girls begins at the age of 8-10, the first signs of growing up appear (the mammary glands of the breast increase, the hairline begins to grow where it was not there before).

In boys, this period begins a little later, from 11-13 years old (acceleration of the growth of the testicles and scrotum; after 13, the voice breaks, hair growth increases).

The second question, I think, remains open. The body of adolescents is formed before the age of 18, the psyche becomes stable at the age of 21. You can start sex life then:

- when you love and love you;

- when a person is psychologically ready for this;

- when there is a mutual desire of two partners;

- when young people are ready to take responsibility;

- when they can think about the consequences and how to solve problems, the nursery will appear like that.

Often, starting a sex life, young men and women are little enlightened about sex. I mean in such matters as: precautionary methods (contraception), sexually transmitted diseases, how to get pregnant, I'm not talking about the psychological problems that adolescents face (when having sex).

I can definitely say that if you have a partner with whom you have a fairly constant relationship, you have feelings for each other and you are ready to share the responsibility, then perhaps you are ready for sexual relations.

But do not forget the proverb: "it is better to measure 7 times and cut off once!"

Often babies sleep in the same bed with their parents, is this acceptable?

I believe that there is nothing wrong with a shared dream. The baby feels protected, the mother sleeps more peacefully. But the spouses need to discuss this issue. If it is acceptable for two, then this is the norm. If one of the spouses is against, then there will be a split in the family. But you need to remember that the older the child, the harder it is to wean him from common sleep. The most favorable period after a year, when the pain in the tummy has already stopped, a number of teeth have erupted. You can already see dreams in your bed. Since at 3 years old, a baby can hate dad only for the fact that he pretends to be a mom, and then it is already difficult to explain that mom should only sleep with dad. Although, I will repeat once again, each family decides this issue individually.

What should parents do if a child suddenly finds them during physical intimacy? Could this be psychological trauma for children?

Again, depending on how old the child is. If this is a kid up to 3 years old, then you can come up with a lot of options, because it is difficult for him to understand what was happening between the parents. If this is a child after 5 years, then it is more difficult. But you need to be very sensitive and attentive to the baby. This refers to his reaction, his questions, look, behavior. There is definitely no need to make excuses for what happened (so that the child does not form a shameful feeling for this process). Talk to him about the feelings between a man and a woman and tell him how much mom and dad love each other. Show a little parental imagination (did massage to each other, looked for pajamas together …). Try not to distort your faces with horror, because it is your reaction that will further guide the child's perception of all these events. I would say here that parents may have more shock than a child (men perceive this especially painfully). Therefore, do not forget to take precautions: make sure that the child is sound asleep; if possible, make love in a different room (not in the nursery); close the doors to your bedroom; turn on music. But you are adults, and I think you will continue this series yourself.

What is the right thing to do for parents if they show intimate or erotic scenes while watching a movie or television program together?

Firstly, before sitting down to watch a movie together, parents should definitely study the annotation and comments on the film, so as not to get into an uncomfortable position in front of the child.

Secondly, if this happened, absolutely calmly ask the child to leave, saying that there are moments that children are too early to watch. Having promised, if the child is interested in any questions on this topic, he can safely turn to his parents, and they will willingly answer them.

Thirdly, you can switch the channel, and thereby the child's attention, but honestly say that you switched, because those moments that were shown are designed only for adults.

The main thing is to be honest with the child. Do not panic, do not get nervous. And then your calm reaction will not reinforce the child's further interest.

How to protect children from unnecessary and unnecessary erotic information in the media?

Yes, unfortunately (for children) the topic of sex is open and flows through all information channels. Therefore, parents need to control the situation. Security programs for computers, blocking channels on television broadcasting. But most importantly, if your child has satisfied all his requests (from his parents) on a topic of interest to him, believe me, he will not look for a source of information. This is done by children who have not had sex education in the family.

Should sex education be a compulsory subject in the school curriculum? Or should the family deal with this issue?

I believe that first of all this issue should be dealt with by the family. After all, this is very individual. Who, no matter how the parent knows his child. Perhaps someone is more susceptible, and someone is more vulnerable, someone develops faster, and someone slower. Therefore, the foundations must be laid in the family. Well, a sex education lesson would be an ideal solution for our children in full-fledged upbringing of a personality. After all, there are a lot of issues related to the topic of sex education and, first of all, it is culture. We have absolutely lost what sexuality is, how you can show your femininity, and how to properly look after girls for boys. A lot of concepts have been erased, simplified, reduced only to the sexual act. Therefore, the subject of sex education is very necessary in schools!

Myths:

1. Sexual orientation depends on sex education.

   You cannot say with 100% certainty that this is so. But one of the criteria may be.

2. If the mother is engaged in sex education for the son, and the father for the daughter, this will lead to problems in the child's personal life.

   No, this judgment is absolutely not true!

3. Evidence of intercourse can be a serious trauma for a child.

   Depends on the behavior and explanations of the parents. If a child is left alone with what he saw, then this can be an imprint on his entire subsequent sexual life!

4. If the topic of sex is taboo in the family, the child will grow up physically and mentally enslaved.

   Yes, this statement may be a reality. After all, having a lot of prohibitions, the child develops the notion that this is something shameful, indecent.

5. If parents do not show love and tenderness to each other in front of the child, this will lead to his sexual promiscuity.

   This will lead the child to the fact that he will be a fairly reserved sexual partner; will not show tenderness to his children, and will also be cold enough in relationships with people close to him.