2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do you feel that something is going wrong in your life? Are you tired of feeling melancholy and sadness, falling asleep in a cold bed?
The topic of relationships for people working remotely is one of the most painful, difficult and difficult to overcome. I will tell you a story, and you draw your conclusions.
Once upon a time there was a programmer Petya. At 32, he realized his profession, held a high position and loved his job very much. So, a good job, a beautiful, cozy and safe apartment, your favorite online games with friends, late-night Netflix TV series and just 2 minutes walk to work.
And all would be fine, but Petya began to notice that he was staying up late - he went to bed at 4-5 in the morning, not wanting to go to his cold and uncomfortable bed. If he goes to bed before excessive fatigue is cut off, he will feel melancholy and sadness from the fact that he is alone in his bed, from the fact that in his life and embrace there is no one, the only one that he has long dreamed of. And in order not to face these unpleasant feelings, Petya began to play more games or work, spend more and more time at the computer. Of course, Petya thought about realizing his dreams and even made attempts, but soon he became bored and gave up his attempts, returning to his computer world.
If his soul could speak, she would cry about how much he longs for love. Having no experience of communicating with new people, Petya quickly abandoned all attempts to meet the girl of his dreams, increasingly communicating with the computer. Over time, he came to terms with the fact that he was not particularly "human." Perhaps in childhood he was rejected in the sandbox, and other children did not share their toys with him, or his parents were always at work - he does not reliably remember exactly what happened, but now he does not believe that he is worthy of the love of that girl, oh which she dreams of. That is why Petya does not make any attempts to get to know someone - I'd rather go play, read, watch a TV series, learn to play the guitar, learn a language, etc. And in general - why are all these relationships needed?
And Petya also noticed that his morning erection had disappeared - it was not yesterday, 3 days ago it was not, it was not last Sunday either - and he got worried, passed the tests, but the doctor said that everything was in order. What then is the matter? Since Petya does not dare to have a relationship, then his penis is scared, he “retired into himself”, hid (figure it out yourself somehow!). But … Petya only needs to find another problem so as not to engage in relationships (“How to start building relationships if I have such a problem ?!”). It turns out a vicious circle, from which sometimes it is impossible to get out of it - Petya is afraid, the penis is hiding, Petya becomes even more isolated in his problem.
Don't be discouraged if you find yourself in a similar situation. You are not the first, and, after all, you will not be the last. Many before you have coped with such a problem, made the right choice and were able to live a better, more useful and efficient life.
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