To Be Or Not To Be? About Making A Decision

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Our whole life is about making decisions. Wake up now or lie around for another five minutes? Wear this suit or is it better to go in jeans? Driving to work or walking? Or maybe not go anywhere at all? And so on and so forth…

In fact, making a decision is nothing more than the ability to make a choice from all available alternatives.

For many, this process is so exhausting that it takes all the strength, exhausting it so that even with wonderful opportunities, we are not able to take advantage of any one.

Remember Buridan's donkey? He starved to death, between two stacks of juicy fresh grass. That's the same. From this example, it follows that you need to make a decision, no matter how hard it is for you, how long you put it off until later.

Most often, difficulties in choosing and making a decision are experienced by people who lost one of their parents in childhood: girls - their mother, boys grew up without a father.

Knowing and recognizing this fact, it is necessary and should constantly learn the ability to make decisions in order to confidently and fully live your life.

Let's go from simple to complex. And at the same time we will feel the drive from the fact that we succeed in everything!

There are unambiguous solutions. Axioms. They only need to be accepted:

- To go or not to go to the toilet? Go.

- Eat or not? Do not eat.

“Midnight is approaching. Sleep or not sleep? Sleep.

- Should I smoke a hundred-thousandth cigarette or, well, her? Do not smoke.

- To walk or not to walk on the street / with a child?

Walk.

- To buy or not to buy the fifteenth pair of shoes? Do not buy.

Sketch such situations for yourself and follow the decision. You shouldn't think too much about it. But - a good workout without unnecessary hassle and confidence in the future

There are decisions on important matters. Important cases are planned, carefully considered, prescribed, discussed with significant people, with experts, various alternatives are considered, and the best is chosen from them. It will not be superfluous if you describe the strengths and weaknesses of each solution, your opportunities and risks. This way you can better see the consequences of each choice in order to make the best decision. In addition, this approach relieves anxiety, and you will see the result more clearly and visibly.

Important issues are not resolved in a hurry. They are always in the future. And if you devote at least half an hour to them every day, you will easily and pleasantly make the delayed decision.

There are decisions that are like a bolt from the blue, and they need to be made right now, this minute. Although there is almost no time for reflection, you always find it to think, weigh, try to see the consequences - and make a choice. When you practice simple and important decisions, urgent ones will no longer cause you panic and endless “what to do, what to do”.

And there are important things to keep in mind when making decisions

1. The decision must be made in any case. If you don't do this for a long time, you get sick. The causes of many illnesses are from unpleasant decisions. After all, nothing depends on a sick person. Illness is a kind of justified escape from responsibility.

2. Therefore, making a decision, you need to realize that all responsibility for its consequences lies with you.

3. It follows that there are no right or wrong decisions. There are only consequences of your choice.

4. You can doubt as much as you like. Until that moment, until they made a decision. Made a decision - everyone! Drop all doubts, let go of the situation, even forget about it. When you continue to doubt after your decision, more often than not, nothing good happens.

5. Never make decisions in extreme emotional manifestations - whether in a state of unprecedented excitement, or being angry - the consequences will always be dire. The solution loves a cool head and a calm heart.

Exercise. The best results are achieved with exercise. I tell you this with full responsibility as a champion of difficult decision-making

Well, if my observations do not help, do not delay. Find a specially trained person who, together with you, will walk the path to a confident and life-affirming "Be!"