Charisma - How To Acquire A Life-changing Gift

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Charisma - this is what every person wants to have, but no one can fully explain this very charisma. Where to find it, what qualities does a charismatic person have? What is this thing that has an almost mystical effect on people?

The main difference between charismatic people is that they can influence other people with their personality. And the latter will even like it. This is primarily useful both at work, in business and in life in general.

Charisma - this is a whole set of psychological, communicative, various internal and external parameters. It represents a certain corporate identity, image, exclusivity, giftedness of a person, special psycho-emotional qualities that allow him to influence other people, an individual way of communication that attracts and lures others. Such a set of traits and qualities for others appears as a bewitching internal energy, forcing them to follow.

The meaning of this word is gorgeously revealed through its ancient Greek root and denotes a gift from God, anointing.

Being charismatic means being passionate. Indeed, if we recall those whom we can confidently call charismatic - they were all passionate about their chosen business, had excellent energy, with a spark in their eyes, they seemed to be floating in a special stream, different from the gray everyday life of the bulk of people. With equal efforts, actions of the same kind, the result of the influence and work of a charismatic person and a person who is not keen on them - differ impressively.

Charismatic leaders change the destinies of peoples and states, determine global events and remain forever in history. However, not only great leaders and spiritual leaders have charisma. Among ordinary people who have not distinguished themselves by great accomplishments, one can also distinguish personalities with strong charisma.

They tend to have a greater impact on people than everyone else. Their advice is listened to, respected and loved. Since all people in general are social beings, and society and place in it are of great importance for a person's happiness, the owners of charisma can be called lucky.

How charisma affects your life:

There is a close connection between success and charisma. Much of our success and well-being depends on our relationship with others. The better our environment reacts to us, the easier it is for us to get what we want. In essence, when we discuss charisma, we come to the law of attraction. At different times, it was interpreted in different ways. However, in general, this law leads to the fact that you inevitably attract into life those people and those situations that are in harmony with your state and thoughts. You are like a living magnet, and your state is constantly sending out certain waves, which are like sound waves from a radio station. They are the ones that are caught by the people who perceive you.

Thoughts amplified by your emotions, like radio waves amplified by electrical impulses, leave you and are captured by those who are initially tuned in to a common wave with you. And in life you are attracted to people, ideas, necessary opportunities, means, interesting situations, money, other things that correspond to your personal way of thinking and state. This pattern explains exactly how you can increase your charisma in order to positively influence the people whose cooperation, whose support and love you crave. The most important thing to remember is that charisma is largely based on perception. The main thing is not exactly who you are, but how people think you are. This is not so much the real state of affairs, but how others perceive you.

6 Signs of Charisma:

Emotional sensitivity. Charismatic people know how not only to infect with their emotions, but also to subtly feel the initial emotional mood of other people, as well as to build interaction based on this attitude. They quickly establish emotional contact with people, so that the other person very soon begins to feel like “the only person in the room,” and who doesn't like being like that?

Naturalness. This is a manifestation of its uniqueness and genius. But this is as a consequence of naturalness. Uniqueness is to have an inner foundation and act on it. Uniqueness is the ability to do what you enjoy without fear of being judged by others. And it doesn't matter so much it's right / wrong.

Conscious control of the emotional sphere. Charismatic people know how to control their emotions. The emotional state becomes their tool, they use it for their own purposes, from which, however, their emotions do not lose their sincerity.

Ability to correctly express your thoughts. Almost all charismatic people are good speakers, so they influence the interlocutors not only with the help of emotions, but also with the help of words.

Social sensitivity. Charismatic people have a subtle sense of social interactions, they know how to listen and be on the same wavelength with their interlocutors. Therefore, such people are almost always tactful and attentive to their surroundings.

Self-control in communication. It is an essential skill for charismatic people to maintain composure and grace when dealing with any audience. They can establish emotional contact with any segment of the population.

Types of charisma:

• The charisma of a visionary is to inspire people and make them believe. An example is Steve Jobs.
• The charisma of kindness is to make others feel important. An example is the Dalai Lama.
• The charisma of authority is to make others believe that you have the power to change their lives. An example is Bill Gates.
• The charisma of focus is to show the person that at the moment you are focused only on him. An example is Bill Clinton.

The choice of charisma depends on several things: your personality, goals and situation. That is why you should not choose and train the style that does not match your character. If you are an open and kind person, you should not try to over-exercise your authority. Especially if you feel that it is contrary to your principles.

Well, now let's talk about the development of charisma?

The good news is, charisma is not born. This can be verified. For example, think of any person you think is charismatic. If you communicate with him more often than once a week, then you notice that his charisma is not always present. Nobody can be charismatic around the clock. It takes too many resources. Therefore, this is a developed parameter.

Next, you will learn how to do this systematically, at least at a basic level.

- Conviction … It is not possible to involve people in something that you yourself do not believe. That is why you must first of all understand and know what you are trying to tell the other person about.

- Maximum presence wherever you are. To do this, you need to try to disconnect from all unnecessary external and internal stimuli and direct the focus of attention to the place or situation in which you are. If you can be with your interlocutor here and now, at the moment, then this will already set you apart from the rest. People will feel your attention and that they are everything to you. At least for now.

- Respect the interlocutor and listen to him. If the transfer of emotional state is not easy to establish, then it is much easier to learn social sensitivity. All you need to do is stop considering yourself the most important person in the world and pay attention to the interlocutor. Make the person feel personal. And nothing helps to do this at the beginning of communication like an appeal by name. The more often you say a person's name, the more often he responds and the better he perceives your message, addressed as specially for him.

Listening to other people is a real art. If you listen to the other person and take an interest in him, he begins to feel special. I don't think it's worth explaining how cool it feels.

- Replace “I” with “we” and “you”. It will always be more pleasant for your interlocutor to hear about himself, and he will be more active and more willing to accept those offers in which you say about the benefits for him personally. For example, not “I want to show”, but “you will be able to see, and it will definitely be interesting to you”. Talking more about others, and not about yourself, you seem to break the wall of separation between you, because everyone wants to be understood, interested in him and paid attention to him. This is how you get closer to people. But do not abuse this advice, because the avoidance of "I" can look like his weakness and an attempt to share responsibility, which in behavior will be perceived as a minus.

- Sincerity of emotions, feelings and experiences. Before infecting with ideas and emotions, you need to catch fire with them yourself. You cannot infect other people with something that you yourself are not sure about. Therefore, before infecting others with emotions and instilling in them self-confidence, you need to learn how to experience all this yourself.

Stop suppressing your emotions. If something makes you happy - laugh heartily, without trying to suppress a giggle, and if it upsets you - don't make an indifferent face, experience the emotion in full, be natural.

Of course, not all emotions should be splashed out on the interlocutors, this is fraught with eccentricity, and this will not add to your popularity. All people want to be brave and positive, not to doubt themselves and their strengths. If you experience these emotions and openly radiate positive and self-confidence, it will be transmitted to the people around you.

- Effective body language. The position of the body during a conversation, the actions of the hands, facial expressions - all this greatly affects the perception of you by other people. Even if your nervousness and uncertainty is not noticed by the consciousness of the interlocutor, the subconscious mind will certainly tell him whether it is worth communicating with you or not.

Fortunately, body language works in the opposite direction: if you take a more relaxed posture, you start to feel more relaxed, if you smile, your soul becomes a little brighter.

It is known that intonation depends on health, posture and general emotional state. There are special exercises for developing voice strength. The main thing to know is that the voice should come as if from the chest, but not from the level of the throat. With a chest voice, your timbre will become more pleasant, caressing the ear, which is especially important when communicating with the opposite sex.

You should also know how emotions are expressed in movements and intonations, which will provide you not only with a more effective expression of yourself and targeted influence on your interlocutors, but also with the correct reading of their emotions. Attention to non-verbal components is extremely important, because the first impression usually occurs even before the conversation, in the first few seconds, it happens unconsciously.

So watch the position and behavior of your body: do not slouch, even during the most intense conversation, do not fiddle with objects in your hands and do not wrinkle your fingers, try to smile more often and not take closed poses.

- Ask open-ended questions, which allows the interlocutor to expand his answer, while closed ones imply only a few answer options, usually "yes" or "no". Open-ended questions will allow you to support the conversation, deepen it, learn more about the interlocutor, and let him manifest. Be interested in your subject, asking him open questions about his hobbies, events throughout the day, ask with liveliness and sincerity, and then you will be surprised how willingly they will contact you.

In conjunction with this advice, we will say that it is extremely important to first find out in which particular area the interests of the interlocutor or audience lie, to prepare for communication. Ask leading questions, and then, based on the information you receive, build further communication, include in the speech what the interlocutor told you, emphasize the points that correspond to his values, and he will listen to you with even more attention.

What do you think, is it possible to develop charisma or is it an innate gift, with the absence of which nothing can be done?

That's all. Until next time. Sincerely Dmitry Poteev.