How To Distinguish Salvation From Helping Another?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How to distinguish Salvation from helping another?

Barbara is a waitress in the occupied territory of Poland. The Russian spy Kazimir, who is at the side of the Germans, is her cousin. She considers him a bad Pole, because he helps the Soviets.

Barbara feels sincere sympathy for Powell, so gentle, intelligent and gallant. Powell is Casimir's immediate superior. And for the fact that he did not recognize the spy - Powel is threatened with execution.

He gets drunk and complains to the waitress Barbara. A high-ranking Nazi army officer sheds a tear in her arms. He is helpless and does not understand where to look for a Russian spy.

Barbara promises to help him. She was moved by a tender feeling for a man and a feeling of her own omnipotence. She is able to solve a problem that is unsolvable for Powell.

Powell reports this conversation to the Gestapo. The woman paid for the momentary weakness with torture and death. They killed her and her father.

At first, Powell is a Victim, when the situation turns, he becomes the Aggressor. Barbara is a Rescuer who very quickly becomes a Victim and needs to be rescued. The notorious Karpman Triangle, which mercilessly draws new people into its lair and grinds their lives and destinies.

How not to be in the mouth of this terrible monster?

Barbara, feeling an aching desire to help the unfortunate man, had to:

First, ask yourself, "Is this her business?" The answer is negative. It means that it was not necessary to climb there.

Secondly, the woman could ask herself the question: "Is Paul really helpless?" The answer is negative. In addition, he bears the consequences of his own negligence.

Third, Barbara needed to see reality. And the reality was that Powell was an officer of the enemy army, which mercilessly destroyed her fellow tribesmen and mercilessly trampled on the woman's native land.

Now let's transfer the above three points to another situation.

You are walking in the park and you see a 2-year-old baby who is crying bitterly and calling for his mother.

1. You can ask yourself: "Is this my business?" The answer is negative. So you don't need to help the baby? But the following question will help to understand this:

2. "The kid is really helpless?" - Of course yes. A small child found himself in a difficult situation when he is alone in a huge metropolis.

3. Pay attention to reality. And reality is dangerous for the child and he needs help.

People quickly appear around the child who are trying to question him, feed him with cookies, and find his mother. Or, as a last resort, take it to the police. And these are adequate actions that save the child's life and health.

The child situation is a simple example. The example with Barbara and Powell is more complicated and not so straightforward.

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