2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
“Doctor, I feel bad…” This is how my Clients usually answer the question: “What do you want to contact and what are you complaining about?”.
And although I am not a doctor, but a humanitarian psychologist, I begin to clarify, unraveling in the mind of the person who turned to me for help, the so-called tangle of a problem or condition.
How bad is it for you: body, soul, consciousness, behavior
I help a person to clarify and concretize his generalized request "I feel bad" or "I have no strength for anything."
80% of tension and apathy, anxiety and absent-mindedness in the event of a dead end or problem are resolved if this generalized description “I feel bad” is divided into 4 blocks:
- Feel. How the problem is perceived in the body in the form of symptoms and clamps.
- Feelings. This is the emotional component of the psychological impasse. What's in my soul. What a person wants or does not want.
- Thoughts. Cognitive schemas in the head of the applicant. Restrictions. beliefs. Attitudes and thought forms, which are often obsessive.
- Behavior. What a person does or does not do in an attempt to cope with a difficult life situation. What is being done and what consequences it leads to.
I ask questions that correspond to these four blocks of unraveling and unraveling the core of the problem.
Sometimes I write down the answers to these questions myself, sometimes I ask the client to do it himself, and then this technique works even more efficiently.
"I have depression …": method of 4 questions
Recently I was approached by a young man who complained of depression - he made this diagnosis for himself, lack of strength to study and he did not even bathe every day.
I began to use my “4 question group methodology” to clarify and concretize how this particular person experiences apathy.
Since the meeting in the psychologist's office was the first for this student, I decided to write down the answers myself, having previously explained to him what and how I was going to do.
4-question methodology: FEELINGS
Pain in the muscles of the extremities: arms and legs, pulling.
Periodically, the whole body twists, whines. Then we worked with the word "whines" separately - it turned out that the client hadn't been crying for many years.
Sudden attacks of dizziness. Low blood pressure.
Fog in the head, absent-mindedness, dizziness.
Migraine-like pains.
Slowed down in movements.
Ringing in ears. Cramps in calf muscles at night.
Tension in the neck and shoulder blades.
4-Question Methodology: FEELINGS
Apathy.
Irritability to yourself.
Uncertainty.
There is no desire to do even daily activities.
Methodology 4 questions: THOUGHTS
"It would be nice if I wasn't there."
"Death is not a bad way to get rid of this condition."
"My life does not suit me, I am disappointed in everything."
"I live this life meaninglessly and it passes me by."
4-Question Methodology: BEHAVIOR
Hobbies: I have given up playing the bass guitar.
There is no relationship with girls.
There was sex with a prostitute.
Meet with friends 1-2 times a month, drink beer or vodka.
I lie on the couch all day, I don't go anywhere.
I have accumulated debts at the university, although last year I did well and excellently.
Conflicts and quarrels with parents.
With friends, the distance in communication is growing.
When we meet in the office, the handshake is sluggish.
Agree, a completely different picture emerges than when trying to understand how the state works with the words "I feel bad, I have depression."
And what to do with this state is already clear, even to a person inexperienced in psychotherapy.
Therefore, I recommend using my technique when you are trying to help yourself or your family or friends, scattering monosyllabic complaints on these 4 shelves and be sure to write everything down in detail.
The technique also works more broadly to describe life and change it in the necessary direction, but this is a completely different story.
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