2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"I want to be my child's best friend!" And if you are a friend, who will be his mother?
The status of mom and girlfriend is completely different.
Friends do not bear the same responsibility that lies with the parents; they cannot provide the support that the child seeks in the mother and father.
To be friends is to be on an equal footing.
But there is a distance between you and the child, there are topics that you will never discuss with him (at least you should not), there is your right to declaratively make decisions.
For a child, parents are gods.
It is a stronghold of stability, security and love.” If mom knows what she's doing, then the world is okay. And mom knows what she's doing!)), since for a very long time the main part of the responsibility will lie with her.
As much as you would like to be friends with your daughter or become the best friend of your son, these places are not yours. They should be occupied by peers. It is with them that he will discuss the subtleties of relations and other similar issues, where you are ordered to enter. As well as to him in your parents' bedroom.
Mom has a role to play. If she decides to make a close friend of her daughter, and a close friend of her son (practically a replacement for her man), then she greatly violates the boundaries of her children.
adult aunts and uncles should be friends only with adult aunts and uncles. it is with them that you need to build an intimate, close relationship
Instead of trying to take over the world, soul and body of your child.
The boundaries are always set by an adult. It is he who sets the rules. And he bears most of the responsibility.
Even if you already communicate with your child as an adult - an adult, and not as a child - a parent, you still remain his parent, your status does not change, no matter how old your “baby” is.
You will never be equal.
And this is worth accepting.
Moreover, you should not try to shift responsibility for you onto your child. Make him a parent to you, change places with him. Hanging on him to take care of you, trying to make him a life partner, a man you can rely on and whom you can love forever.
Adult aunts and uncles build relationships with other adult aunts and uncles, and not with their children, no matter how old these children are.
For a daughter, a father is a dream man.
At the age of five, she even decides to kick her mother out and have children from her father and live with him in love and harmony until death do them part.
But no matter how regrettable it is to realize this, even the most loving dads will have to make room for a man next to his daughter to another - first a boy, then a guy, and then a man. And there's nothing you can do about it. Ce la vie.
All boys, whether they realize it or not, have been in love with their mothers. And if for some reason the mother does not set boundaries between herself and her son, then these sons “forbidden love” continues to burden their relationship. If the mother is smart enough to switch her attention to other adult men, then the son understands that the mother is busy and will be able to successfully build relationships with his peers.
you should not be a friend to your child, it is better to be a supportive, loving, reliable parent for him
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