I Want An Ex. Sex With Ex (s)

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It is intimate relationships that are the purpose and meaning of a love relationship between a man and a woman. Of course, someone can begin to argue with me and argue that intimacy is a secondary thing in comparison with “spiritual closeness” or the presence of common goals in life, etc. I will not argue. I’ll just note that the relationship between a man and a woman, based only on spiritual intimacy, but not including intimate relationships, is not love: it’s just a good human relationship. Of course, this is precisely a relationship and in the future they can become love. But, you must admit: just when exactly intimate relations are established between partners.

Thus, we will consider it proven that it is the presence of an intimate relationship that makes the relationship between a man and a woman precisely love. Now, let's find out what exactly is "love relationship"? A love relationship is such a relationship between a man and a woman, when at least two important points are present in them:

• desire to constantly or at least regularly be together, meet and communicate with each other;
• intimate relationships without coercion.

I emphasize: only these two points turn a love relationship really into love! Of course, ideally, there should be the following:

• the desire to always be together in the future (up to the wedding and death on the same day), including the desire to live together;
• desire to have children together;
• willingness to sacrifice their finances and material wealth for each other;
• willingness to sacrifice their time for each other;
• the presence of mental comfort in communication; - the presence of common goals and interests in life;

Etc. etc.

However, you must admit that real modern love relationships can sometimes do without all this! That is, many modern men and women may not live together, do not want to have children together, do not spend their money on each other, do not have common goals and interests, regularly quarrel with each other, but at the same time be firmly sure that them just love relationships! Moreover, their confidence is based only on the fact that they have:

• desire to constantly or at least regularly be together, meet and communicate with each other;
• intimate relationships without coercion.

And since, it is quite obvious that full-fledged intimate relationships are impossible without constant, regular, or at least episodic, but still personal meetings, with all the logic it turns out:

The presence of permanent or even episodic intimate relationships without coercion means that it is love relationships that take place between a given man and woman.

Accordingly, I authoritatively declare to you:

If a man and a woman, declaring to each other, that they are either about to part, or have already formally parted, nevertheless, while maintaining an intimate relationship, it means, in fact, they continue their love relationship only at the same time tormenting themselves and condemning them to suffering because of unrequited love, jealousy and resentment.

Personally, I think this is a GREAT self-deception, bordering on the same stupidity and masochism. That is, announcing the termination of the relationship, but at the same time meeting in a common bed, people who are still in love with each other lie to themselves, to their loved one and to everyone around them that "everything is over between them" when in fact between them true love still takes place. From here I directly declare:

• If you really love each other, then stop playing separation, you just need to be together.
• If you, having spit on your feelings, or having lost them in the process of causing mutual grievances, are firmly decided to end this relationship, then it’s time for you to read the following practical recommendations. They are pretty short.

Practical recommendations for sex with a former (ex):

💡 First. No sex with your ex if you've made the firm decision to break up!

If it is you who are the initiator of the end of the love relationship, then you must have had very good reasons for this. And if this is exactly the case, then you just need to bring your decision to life. First, because this decision is yours, not someone's. Secondly, because this is your own life and you absolutely must not allow it to develop according to someone else's, and not according to your scenario. In addition, it has long been known that "one cannot breathe before death." That is, no matter how funny and ridiculous "transitional" periods you come up with, one day, separation will still become a reality. And if so, then there is nothing to deceive yourself and others: you should simply fulfill your own decision. And if the decision is precisely to terminate these love relationships due to the lack of their prospects, this, first of all, just implies that it is precisely intimate relationships that end, as a relationship that binds two people as closely as possible. So, from the very moment when you said aloud that it's time for you to leave, a complete taboo should be imposed on intimate relations with this person. That is, a ban. Full!

Well, if you would still like to continue some kind of love relationship, but after a series of quarrels your partner told you that it's over, then it's time to turn on your pride and say: “Okay, dear! Since we are now only friends, then only friends! Let's do it! After that, do not suffer, do not whine, and even more humiliatingly do not beg for sex from someone who has abandoned you. At the end of the day, believe in yourself! There are almost five billion people on Earth, can't you choose someone else from this number? Of course you can! So read on!

💡 Three times. Don't try to use sex with your ex as a way to get the relationship back!

Due to the specifics of the profession of a family psychologist, I have heard hundreds of times from men and women that they tried to regain lost relationships, primarily through sex. They created such situations when he turned out to be possible, and then put all their moral and physical efforts so that the partner was not just satisfied with the sex that happened, but he was literally boldly boldly with a whole cascade of super orgasms. After that, they gave gifts, created a cultural program and again and again carried the fleeing partner to bed …

If you also wish to apply this tactic, I strongly declare:

I know many couples where good sex dragged out the very process of separation, but I don't know a single person who would create a family solely because of the phenomenal intimate abilities of a partner.

Simply put: If they don’t want to be friends with you and don’t want to start a family, you can rest assured that it’s not about sex! More precisely, not only in sex. Therefore, if you suddenly start to fight for this relationship, relying only on improving your intimacy, this will be too little. Firstly, intimate novelty and your extra zeal is difficult to stretch for decades, and secondly, something else must be eliminated explicitly … So, wanting to stay together and relying on sex, try to change something else. And if you do not want to change anything else or are not able to, do not waste your time and energy on efforts in bed:

After the orgasms no longer needed by anyone, not only physical, but also moral devastation necessarily comes.

💡 Third. Move away from situations where sex with your ex is possible.

If your partner is clearly making every effort to pull you into bed, or you yourself are not yet able to cope with the desire that grips you again, as before, indulge in pleasures with a familiar partner, then you should take the simplest preventive measures. For example, don't date your ex (s) where no one is. At each other's homes, in his or your car, in someone's office after work, etc. etc. Do not end up in the same hotel room on business trips, in the same tent during a campaign in nature, etc. etc. Not only will you stop yourself by doing so, but what is very important, you will not provoke any of you into trying to force sex.

In this sense, again, I would like to inform you about what is not customary to advertise: According to my own estimates: At least a third of rapes occur precisely between former relationship partners. This is when the guy thought that his ex-girlfriend did not mind at all, and she hoped too much for the decency of her former friend. In this case, applications to law enforcement agencies are rare. But the crippled female souls are just a regularity. Think, do you need it?

💡 Fourth. Be sure to provide yourself with an intimate relationship during the period of loss of relationship.

Having an alternative intimate partner is one of the best ways to overcome depression after a love relationship ends.

In my psychological practice, I clearly see the following:

1. The lack of sex in the life of a person with a long experience of regular intimate relationships (especially among girls) begins to manifest itself after two to three months in people with an active choleric or sanguine temperament, and a maximum of six months to a year in less energetic people with a phlegmatic or melancholic temperament …
2. In the absence of sex for six months, more or less noticeable changes begin to occur in human psychology, associated with the restructuring of general life and sexual behavior. A person begins to inexplicably (for himself) feel sad or, on the contrary, becomes aggressively problematic in communication, his (her) behavior often (and inexplicably for him (s) himself) and changes dramatically, the person sometimes does not understand, what does he actually want from himself, and from the opposite sex, and from life in general.
3. In the absence of love relationships and sex for a period of more than a year, the psyche undergoes even more significant changes. Again, this is especially true for women. For example, you can see the following consequences:

• Some ladies, watching how their girlfriends fall in love and get married, gradually take on the role of "old and all-knowing", "seeing through all men", become very caustic, and their prickly causticity finally scares away even those men from them that all -taki are trying to create a love and intimate relationship with them.
• Other ladies, subconsciously trying to compensate for their feeling of inferiority in comparison with their more lovingly sexually successful girlfriends, do this at the expense of self-conviction that their own everyday problems are a mere trifle compared to those that exist in the lives of others. Such girls and women begin to actively sympathize with all those who complain to them about their difficulties and problems, professionally empathize with them and often think something like this: “How sorry I am for all women! Because of these love, intimate and family troubles with men, it is so difficult for them to live … So, my lack of all this, in fact, is not my problem at all, but rather a blessing … So I will live without all this for now … ". (I personally define this type of behavior in my practice as a type: "Mother Teresa").
• Third ladies (as a rule, with a tough upbringing in the family) simply soberly assess reality, become very disciplined, active and proactive in fulfilling their professional functions and spend all their free time and all their energy not spent on love and sex on achieving a successful career … A successful career, in the end they succeed, but due to changes in their consciousness and behavior, the further creation of love and family relationships is becoming more and more problematic.
• In the absence of intimate relationships for more than two to three years, women are almost guaranteed to acquire various chronic diseases, suffer from low or high blood pressure, headaches, pessimism, and sharp extremes in their assessments of men. So, in relation to men;
• some ladies have an almost enthusiastic attitude. Any male attention causes them almost tears of gratitude and a willingness to give up everything and go after the man who paid attention to her to the end of the world. By the way, which, by the way, is exactly what gigolos and male scammers use, such as the notorious Ostap Bender.);
• other ladies have poorly concealed irritation and even aggressive perception of men no longer in the form of representatives of the opposite sex, but in the form of some competitors in the struggle for career positions, money and power. Such women seek to surround themselves, first of all, with other similar failures in their personal lives, prevent them from arranging their own personal lives, may regard their desire to communicate with men almost as sexual betrayal;
• third ladies have a desire to build equidistant friendly relations with men without any hints of gender differences;
• the fourth has some kind of well-understood anxiety, which forces the ladies to engage in all sorts of imitative-distracting activities (such activities that create the appearance of some kind of meaning in daily life): attend courses, sports clubs, religious and occult circles, political parties, totalitarian sects, etc. etc.

At the same time, the behavior of all these types of women can easily change, transform and go from one extreme to another. So, a woman who had (based on sexual starvation) an enthusiastic attitude towards the man who nevertheless drew attention to her, after their relationship does not work out, can instantly become the enemy of all men on earth. But a woman, who almost fiercely fought with men for certain positions and posts, then can suddenly burst into tears and demand to console her often completely random man. And if this man, who by chance turned out to be in the right place at the right time, nevertheless lovingly and intimately consoles her, career growth and improving his well-being will definitely be provided to him (such men become unexpected favorites of those ferocious female persons, such bosses, who whom everyone at work is afraid to approach).

For most of those girls and women who for years have not been able to build successful intimate relationships, changes in outlook on life, in assessments of men and the love-family sphere in general, changes in behavior and changes in attitudes towards themselves, sooner or later become almost irreversible., in general, the type of personality is changing, the worldview is being rebuilt globally, the girl or woman does not just become different, but almost completely loses any opportunity to ever become personally and intimate-family happy

Such girls and women:

• in the opinion of others, they become conflict-problematic and many of them begin to frankly shy away from them, refuse to communicate with them (when they get to know them, men quickly understand all their problematic nature and disappear after a month or two of friendship);
• they regularly commit wrong deeds (especially in dealing with men), even being perfectly aware of all their wrongness;
• they are deeply convinced that all their troubles are connected, first of all, with the fact that there are only wrong men around them, but real men who are able to evaluate them (or, more simply, to withstand them!) have long since disappeared;
• in the end, such problematic ladies put an end to the prospects of creating a full-fledged family, give birth to children for themselves, replenish the lists of single mothers and either overly pamper their children (their only joy), or overly authoritatively clamping them down, after a while they bring into the adult world of those new men and women who, having received from their mothers a deliberately skewed loving-family upbringing, as a result also become loving-intimate-family unsuccessful.

Everything said about respectable ladies, to a greater or lesser extent, is applicable to no less respected men.

The absence of successful love and intimate relationships in the present dooms a person to the absence of successful love and intimate relationships in the future.

And the last: The main problem of those men and women who, for various reasons, dropped out of the love-intimate sphere for a period from six months to a year, is that they themselves almost never realize how their consciousness and behavior are gradually being rebuilt, as they are all more and more doom themselves to failures in love, intimate and family communication in the future! Fencing off from the world of intimacy behind various invented excuses, they simply live their lives irrationally …

And yet I have no purpose to impose my views on life on someone! My task is only to inform readers, to ensure that, living in one way or another, they behave precisely consciously and consciously, always know in which direction they are moving and what consequences certain actions and features of their worldview may have. Therefore, exactly how you react to those theses is only your own business! And I just want to once again focus your attention on the following:

Men are the same means for female success and longevity, as women are for the success and longevity of men themselves.

Think about what you read … Even cynically seducing women, men actually do them some benefit, since with their attention they flatter female pride, emphasize women's demand and help ladies acquire those necessary skills of loving and intimate behavior, which will surely help them not only later create completely optimal family relations, but also to remain fully sane, reasonable and adequate, to avoid joining the slender columns of women with problematic behavior. And quite the opposite in relation to intimately active women. In general, remember:

Nature abhors Void. Therefore, the lack of intimate relationships immediately attracts complexes and phobias. If you don't want to get overgrown with complexes and phobias, be sexually active!