Mom And Kids

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Everything went well and according to plan: all the necessary studies were carried out on time and professionally, the treatment algorithm was followed. Good contact was established with the staff, medicines were selected

The period of hospital stay was coming to an end … And then suddenly a woman cries for two days, does not want to talk to anyone, and at the same time her pressure is kept at 180 to 100. The pressure can be reduced only with the help of injections, and then for a short time. And everything starts all over again … This story happened a few years ago and left a mark on the memory.

One of the working days, a doctor from the cardiology department approached me with a request to work with a patient in the department. It was about a 71-year-old woman who had undergone a week-long course of treatment in the department and was preparing for discharge.

After working for six months in a large private medical company, I noticed that being in a 5-star environment with excellent equipment, food, competent and loyal staff, the patient of the hospital spends a VERY long time alone, in the ward himself. I know that there is a certain treatment algorithm, a sequence of procedures and manipulations, that physically a doctor cannot sit at the patient's bed for half a day … and yet … What is going on in the head of our client? What is he thinking about? What is he afraid of? What does he like? What is waiting for? What is he hoping for? There were many questions.

This is how the Psychological Escort Program was born. In a short time, both doctors and clients liked her very much. With the help of this program, it was possible to pay increased attention to patients in various departments, to recognize their hopes and fears, expectations and preferences. In the complex of treatment and in close cooperation with doctors, this Program gave an excellent psychotherapeutic effect. As the author of this Program, I ended up in our guest's room that day …

In my hands, when I entered the ward, I greeted and introduced myself, there was only a notebook and a pen. The woman lay with her face to the wall and cried. She slowly turned her head in my direction, looked and said quietly: "Well, how can you help me?" I often heard this or a similar question at the beginning of our acquaintance … And yet I asked for permission to stay … This is how my "life buoy feed" began - I was sitting on a chair, and the client was lying face to the wall … We started a conversation, which was according to my plans, should have led to an understanding of the nature of such a reaction of a tired and exhausted woman.

As it turned out, a few days ago she began to ponder how much her treatment at a prestigious private clinic might cost. In "representation and count" this figure had to be with six zeros. They brought her by ambulance with a hypertensive crisis, as if she were insured. At the time of discharge, all payments were made in full, and there was plenty of time to reflect on this topic. The amount for the entire course of hospital stay, research, drugs was paid for by the children of this woman 50/50 by her son and daughter. At the time of my mother's hospitalization, the son worked under a contract in New York, and the daughter in Moscow. The most interesting thing is that they did it immediately and voluntarily! Mom, on the other hand, was overwhelmed by shame and tormented by her conscience because she did THIS with the children! Our guest was relentless and her beliefs and reaction to what was happening led to persistent hypertension.

Her children have grown up a long time ago, started families, became successful people! At the same time, they remained very loving to YOUR MOTHER!

We talked, and she kept crying …

And here, unexpectedly for her, I asked the question: “How much was a drop of mother's milk with which you fed your son, a successful businessman from New York? And how do you assess the sleepless night in which you were sitting at the bedside of your daughter with a fever, today a successful artist from Moscow? "It became quiet in the ward and she stopped crying … This silence lasted for five minutes … And then the woman slowly turned her face to me, looked carefully and said: “What a stupid I am !!! Roar and roar. It turns out that I can be proud of my children !!! How good they are !!! " Then she told for a long time different stories from the childhood of her children, while already sitting comfortably in bed. A smile on her face and pride in her children from that moment dominated this woman …

When this visit and difficult conversation came to an end, there were words of gratitude for the sensitivity, understanding, humanity. And I once again became convinced that today it is no longer enough to treat with drugs alone - psychological support and accompaniment in the hospital and post-hospital period is needed.

By the way, our patient's blood pressure quickly returned to normal, and in a good mood the next morning she was discharged home.

Here is a story about Mom and Children - loving and beloved, ready to donate and help, despite their age, employment and distance.