2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-15 16:05
Parting is always unpleasant, even if it brings relief to both partners
Men and women, when parting with a partner, often think: what was the real reason for the separation, regardless of who initiated it.
Difficulty arises if we cannot find a logical explanation for the reasons and motives for parting. It seems that finding the true reason will make it easier. In fact, having found an explanation of the motives, even if it is the most honest and sincere, it is important to accept it all.
But it is with this that many have difficulties. After all, what is the true reason for another may not succumb to our logic and common sense. I will try to explain in more detail.
1. You have different goals in life.
It may be interesting and pleasant for you to be together, but until a certain time, until the moment when one of you does not want to move on yourself or go to a new level of relationship. One is scared, the other simply does not want to, because then it will be scary and incomprehensible, so why complicate it.
Everyone has their own level of relationships, their priorities and values. This does not mean that someone who does not want to move on is a bad person. It only means that this is enough for him at this particular moment.
Therefore, if some of you do not like this, then everyone makes their own choice where to move on. Accordingly, you should not be very upset if they leave you, it is just the choice of another to move in a different direction that does not pass next to your path.
2. This is not your person.
Yes, you have heard this phrase many times. Unfortunately or fortunately, this is true. This means that at this particular moment this person does not suit you: neither by values, nor by worldview, nor, most importantly, by the desire to move in one direction.
It may happen that later you meet and want to try again, and you may even have everything work out. But do not regret what did not work out earlier. After all, if it didn’t work out earlier, it means it couldn’t, it means that some of you were not ready for this.
It often happens that it does not work out, but you all cannot let go of the charming image of this person from your memory and you yearn for him. Do not be sad, your person will sooner or later be there, and the one who could not, let it be better a pleasant memory than lingering sadness.
3. You have different love languages.
This is very important for any relationship. This can be seen very clearly when married couples seek help in a conflict or crisis situation. They lose the ability to notice the other person and what he is doing for them.
About these languages there is a small, simple and understandable book "Five languages of love" by Geri Chermen, there is enough information to put everything on the shelves.
There are a lot of expectations and claims in the way we show our love, so it is important to give your loved one, if possible, love in the form that is important to him. And, on the other hand, it is important to notice those moments when he tries to show his attention and care in his own language.
4. He doesn't love you.
It's a shame, of course, but this is not a sentence, it is part of the truth of individual relationships. The absence of love hurts more, of course, those who cannot imagine a relationship without it, and those who invest a lot or are ready to invest in relationships.
Do not take this fact as an extreme. After all, if there is no love, this does not mean that you are unworthy of it, and does not mean that it cannot arise. It only means that at this particular moment the other person does not have the strength, desire, resources and the ability to give and experience it.
5. He doesn't love you enough.
This is a continuation of the above, but it is probably much more difficult to accept this fact than the previous one. Many people want to be special and many want a special person next to them. Therefore, it is sometimes very unpleasant to feel disliked or not loved enough, and for some it is even unbearable.
This position and feeling is extremely subjective. The main thing is not to forget that you are valuable in yourself. Therefore, the fact that someone does not appreciate you at your true worth does not at all mean that you do not deserve it. Don't let others belittle you in this way and force you to betray yourself and your values.
6. You have to fight for love
Yes, I think so, but do not confuse love with falling in love. Although someone who wants to mix up will definitely do it, this is neither good nor bad. But true love is definitely worth fighting for, despite pride and prejudice. After all, this is a great gift, rich is the one who feels it, but even richer is the one who lives with it.
Remember, if you have chosen you, then you are special and unique in yourself
This has nothing to do with the fact that the other person could later change his mind, get scared, or just be too lazy to make efforts. Time will pass, and it may become easier to consider the essence of this secret plan (and even if it does not, then this may also have its own meaning).
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