2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What feelings and thoughts did you get when you read the title?
Before you start reading the article, write them down so that later you can understand what your reaction was about? What did she tell you? Does it align with your thoughts and beliefs about women who can't find time for themselves?
TOP 4 reasons why a woman may not find time for herself
(1) a habit made life
Once, finding herself in stress, a woman decides that now her task is to ensure the survival of her child and herself, that everything else is not important yet. And when the basic needs are closed (an apartment is bought, a car, a job is found, a relative is cured, etc.), then she will already return to normal life. Sometimes the period of formation is delayed and a woman simply loses the habit of taking care of herself.
What to do about it? Gradually form a new habit, allocating 5-10 minutes daily "for yourself", realizing that there will be breakdowns, there will be nothing to do. Only an army approach to a new habit can you develop a new experience for yourself, which will show that in 10 minutes a day the world will not collapse, that 10 minutes a day for yourself is a powerful resource, even if all these 10 minutes you were lying on the couch and looking into ceiling.
(2) professional and emotional burnout
The point is similar to the previous one, but the mechanics of the result is different: you invest in some business that you really like at first, you spend more and more energy on it, then the edge of pleasure turns into the edge of giving, which then develops into burnout. Burnout consists of 3 main elements: physical, emotional and mental fatigue, so being in a strong shortage of resources simply does not really take care of yourself and find time for yourself
What to do about it?
Gradually normalize sleep and physical activity, limit factors, limit factors of emotional over-tension, and think more to yourself.
(3) low self-esteem and childhood attitudes
Probably the most difficult point, because the attitudes absorbed in the parental family are corrected the slowest. At the cellular level, one thing has been absorbed for decades, but now I want to somehow quickly (in 5-10 meetings with a psychologist) change them. There are many layers and tracks here, why it turned out this way and how to make them different, to get into new installations
What to do about it? Change habits, change the environment, observe every day that you can feel good and when you take care of yourself, create new positive experiences. It is important to be prepared for the parental family and relatives to pull back like a swamp, telling you something that will return you to childhood experiences and projections. But as in the parable about the frog and milk - if you wallow for a long time, you can whip up the foam and jump out, the main thing is not to lower your paws.
(4) an informed choice
In my life there were several people who consciously and with joy gave all their personal time to others, it was a joy to them, through helping others they received satisfaction from the days they lived. So this can also be and you can simply admire these people if they have found "their own" in life
Today is Saturday - a day off - I wish each of you to find time FOR YOURSELF 🌷
Now we are adults and we ourselves create our reality, we ourselves fill our life with what is important to us.
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