2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Every adult wants his child to grow up neat: keep his clothes in order, put his things in place, take good care of other people's things, help the elders. How to teach a small child to keep order?
Order is nice and comfortable. And positive emotions are caused by the result, not the process itself.
The desire to put things in order is usually formed in a natural way after adolescence, and often - only when a person starts his own family and begins to build his own home. While a child lives in the territory of adults and occupies a subordinate position, he is not responsible for anything around him.
Therefore, it is not necessary to expect that a 2-3 year old child will show desire and responsibility in cleaning toys.
They like to put things in their places, to clean up, usually children are pedantic, neat, not because of an educated habit, but because of their character traits (more often they are girls). The downside of this nature is a tightness in behavior, inability to gamble, lack of initiative.
Children who play with enthusiasm and interestingly are not able to abruptly leave the game and therefore toys remain where they were forgotten. That. unwillingness to put things in order is an age norm, while the presence of some skills in this activity is rather a pleasant surprise.
Where do you start?
Tidying up is best taught through activities or play with an adult.
Do not forget that accustoming to any skills presupposes that other family members also have them. Since the main mechanism of a child's social behavior is imitation, it is better to raise a child by simply putting him next to you and showing him what to do and how to do it, rather than telling him about how good children should act. If none of the adults burdens himself with maintaining the order that is required of the child, then such training will not be effective.
To develop the child's toy cleaning skills, care must be taken to limit the area in which he is allowed to play. It should be borne in mind that cleaning should not interrupt the child's play or hinder its continuation. If he left a built castle made of cubes on the floor, it would be wrong to remove it - this means interrupting the creative process, which may not be resumed. Come up with some kind of prearranged signal that will help you in a playful way to attract the attention of the baby. For example, always play some fun music or ring a bell before tidying up. And it will be great if the child also responds to you with some previously agreed gesture, for example, a raised palm. Especially gifted parents can come up with a chant that the family choir can perform before starting household chores.
If you take on cleaning in the nursery yourself, without or in the absence of a child, he may get the impression that someone will always carry out his duties. Try together with your child, even if he is still very small, to put things in order in his nursery. Let him just hold a toy bag or pull out from under the sofa something that is more difficult for an adult to get. Publicly, thank the child for his help, and on occasion ask for help with cleaning adult things: "You are so good at it, I could not do that!"
When cleaning together, communicate with your baby in a playful way. Let him add toys to your account, which you pronounce in a funny voice. Or try inviting your toddler to turn into a bulldozer to move blocks and cars off the carpet and into a corner. All this will brighten up the child's tedious occupation, and it will not be fixed in his head as an inevitable evil.
With children from 4 years old, you can already agree on cleaning toys in your room on your own, using the reception of tokens, which helps to develop the necessary useful skill in the child. The conditions for a child to receive a token is to clean up toys without being reminded by an adult at a certain time in the evening. The contract with the child includes clear conditions and the expected reward, if these conditions are met.
Six tokens collected in a week give the right to fulfill the child's wishes on Sunday (this can be a trip to the park, to the playground or to the book market to buy an interesting book for the child, etc.). Thus, it is possible to develop skills in other areas of the child's life, for example, quickly undressing from a walk and putting all things in place, brushing teeth in the morning and evening, getting up in the morning or going to bed, etc.
And also, the process of cleaning the room can be turned into an exciting game with elements of mathematics and logic. An important plus: in addition to putting things in order in the house, you will also repeat and consolidate the knowledge gained by the child in the classroom in kindergarten or school.
First, tell your child why people need different classifications. Give an example of the arrangement of books in the library, goods on the shelves in the store, newspapers and souvenirs in the kiosk, the dishes in your kitchen. Explain that categorizing helps you keep things in order and quickly find the items you want.
Play this game: the child asks where you store threads, needles, scissors, knives, forks, photographs. You answer from memory, and your son and daughter are checking whether you said correctly. Then, you switch roles. Now you ask your child where they keep T-shirts, socks, pencils, games - and you check if everything is named correctly.
The child will see the practical benefits of classifications and will gradually begin to worry about keeping the house in order.
Four logic games to make cleaning easy and fun
1. "Groupings"
We divide all the objects in the room into groups: in one group - toys, in another - clothes, in the third - pencils, paints, etc.
Smaller subgroups: all cars, all soldiers, all dolls, all utensils.
We divide clothes into top and underwear (underwear) or into winter and summer clothes.
We distribute shoes by type (sneakers, shoes, sandals, boots) or by how they are fastened (with laces, zippers, fasteners, Velcro, without fasteners).
Books can be divided into adults and children; on art, encyclopedias and textbooks. You can vary as much as you like here.
2. "Pay in order."
Dividing objects into groups is already the lion's share of cleaning. And then invite the child to place objects of one subgroup in order, for example, by color, size, height, etc. Let's say all books are arranged on a bookshelf in height, cars - in size, toy soldiers and dolls - in height, etc. (you need to place them in the places where these objects should be).
3. "Find a pair."
The kids really like to find the lost pair. Give them a pile of socks and have them find a pair for each. Hide one shoe on purpose. In search of his pair, the child must group all the shoes, and immediately on the shelf, so as not to get confused.
4. "We count objects."
Invite your child to count how many items they have grouped today. So, five dolls, ten soldiers, three cars - a total of 18 toys. Two pairs of sneakers, one pair of shoes, three pairs of boots - six pairs of shoes in total.
With older children, you can even draw a graph or diagram. At the end of the week, on the basis of seven graphs, draw up one, summarizing, and draw a conclusion - how many toys (shoes, books, clothes) your son, daughter removed (and therefore scattered!) In a week.
If there are several children, you can arrange a competition between them, who removed the most or who made the least mess. The results of the competition can also be entered into graphs, diagrams, tables.
That's all! We played a little, talked a little, and as a result, we got three advantages: in the children's order, everyone has a cheerful and joyful mood, and we studied logic and mathematics.
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