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Author: psychologist Natalia Filimonova
Girls, women - middle-aged and very young, almost everything, both beautiful and smart, sit on the other side of the monitor in consultation and cry, trying to find a magic pill to return some
Vasya, Yasha or Aslana!
Nationality is not important, the all-Russian female mentality is important - "A man is our everything!"
Recently, in an article I described a rather banal case when a woman happily married, being not young and not the most beautiful:
How to find family, love and loyalty at any age?
To many readers, the case seemed unreal and fantastic, because we, allegedly, "do not have enough men!"
Take a look around! Look, how many of them!
"We just don't know how to cook them!" to normal relations with us women!
I often work on Skype with Russian-speaking clients from other countries
The most amazing thing is that "our girls" living in the far abroad continue to reason the same way!
Many of them, in some magical way, manage to turn the "foreign prince" into the same spoiled and selfish creature as our native sofa "Russian man", becoming a caring mother for him, with all the ensuing consequences:
- Adjusting to his lifestyle
- Indulging his whims
- Desire to be comfortable
- Striving to take responsibility for developing relationships
- Work hard and make money like the head of the family
Conniving hyperprotection - in the language of psychologists means raising a child like an idol! Only in our case we are not talking about the child, but about the partner.
What is the essence of this phenomenon of the transformation of a man into a “pet-child”?
Devaluation of a woman occurs if the "Give-take" balance is disturbed in a relationship and, no matter in what equivalent, whether it be:
- Money
- Feelings
- Actions
According to the laws of family systems, a man is more important than a woman, in the sense that he has more responsibility, and a woman is a reward for a man, but not vice versa
Since ancient times, the task of the stronger sex was to create a base for relationships:
- First he hunts for a woman, to pursue her
- And then, take care of her!
If a man, initially, is not focused on this, in general, or in particular with you, he will never change! It is easier to refuse to build such a relationship now than to crawl out of the addicted state with tears.
Sometimes we ourselves spoil normal relations, sincerely trying to strengthen them, we act not according to the female, but according to the maternal type!
Girls - remember, this is the road to nowhere!
How should you build a relationship?
Yesterday I was visiting a friend. She told me once again about the wisdom of her daughter, whose real story I described in this article:
About how Ivanushka met the Frog, who became the Princess
The daughter's husband was injured in the country. Mother-in-law (my friend) and grandmother (mother of a friend), rushed to pity and save the son-in-law, and the wife told them quietly:
“Stop feeling sorry for him! He is a man, and men do not forgive pity! Two of your sad examples of loneliness are enough for me …"
"My daughter, with a height of over 180 cm, even being very plump, has not been alone for more than two months!" - said my friend proudly.
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