2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Changing yourself
From the words of Omar Khayyam, indicated in the picture, it follows that it is impossible to change oneself. I argue that it is possible. Fatalism is evident in the verse of a 12th century Persian poet.
When there is no peace in the inner world or the psyche is overflowing with unlived feelings and unfinished situations - a person is like in a web. And that there is no getting away from it?
The formation of each of us was greatly influenced by: family, upbringing, social environment. A huge number of factors influenced: family messages and scripts, genetics, social structure of society, country and years of life.
Imagine that you have been building a ship for 20 years. And finally they built it. And the owner decided to remake the ship: modernize, strengthen, change the internal content and appearance. Do you think it will be easy to do this?
But if you want to change yourself, you will have to plow over yourself for years, or even decades, depending on personal trauma and the characteristics of the family from which you come from. To do this, gain ardent motivation and unbreakable faith in yourself.
In the last century, the greatest discovery was presented to mankind - psychotherapy. In meetings with the therapist, resentment, pain and hatred are experienced, which hold in the past and do not allow living in the present.
In psychotherapy, you will face a forgotten pain that is unbearable to live. In the set, you will come in contact with disappointment, shame, guilt, rage ….
And only a strong desire for change will help to withstand the thorny path.
The famous song reads: "We will not stand for the price!"
Are you willing to pay a dear price in the form of Industriousness, Will, Purpose and Courage?
I'll tell you that even at gunpoint, as a therapist, I will not do:
1. I will not work for you and apply energy to this. ZATO I will support your desire to understand the essence of the stated question.
2. Offer a miracle pill that will solve problems at once. This has not been invented. ZATO I will help to translate problems into difficulties, and then into tasks. And safely resolve them.
3. Tell how important it is to get out of codependent relationships and pull you on the lasso into the happiness of an autonomous personality. BUT I will show the pros and cons of these different states.
4. Blame others for your troubles. ZATO will help you realize your contribution to failure and change the destructive way of thinking and living.
5. It is unhappy to sigh, why don't you get married. BUT you will be able to see your own behavior from the outside and realize the reasons for resistance to marriage.
I am a healthy selfish therapist and I do not want to drive myself into psychosomatics by burning to the ground at work. I prefer to work not on my own energy, but on the energy of cooperation with the client.
I always look forward to when, together with the client, we go on an exciting journey through the vastness of his inner world.
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