Who Is A Mistress? Or How She Treats A Married Man

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Who is a mistress? Let's imagine a real situation of adultery on the part of a husband. Someone's husband has established an intimate relationship with a certain girl. Most often - with an unmarried woman. He has some kind of apartment where he lives. It doesn't matter yet who owns it: his, his wife, someone's relatives, or rented. It is important that this man lives somewhere, and does not live on the street. He has a car, a job and an average salary. There is a wife and a child. Since a man can afford to hang out somewhere in a free mode, the child is most often alone. To all this wealth of his as a result of betrayal, the husband adds sex with another woman. In the usual version, he pays her for it with some kind of his attention and gifts. Receiving for this reciprocal attention, care, joint dinners and lunches, intimacy and the pleasant feeling that he is a real man, a successful macho of this city or village. If a girl is beautiful and has a high social status, the man also receives pleasant envy from his friends. At first, with the exception of anxious thoughts that one can become infected with something venereal, be beaten by a past boyfriend of a mistress, or the wife finds out about everything, a man gets only pluses. And the shorter this relationship is, the more a man will get advantages. The longer they are, the more disadvantages there will be. Only the trouble is: the man does not know for a long time that the pluses can gradually transform into minuses and losses …

For an unmarried girl, short love relationships also provide only advantages: regular intimacy, male attention, the solution of some small financial, material and career issues. If these relations take on the character of a medium-term, last for months or a year or two, along with obvious advantages, there are also disadvantages:

- if a lot of people know about this relationship with a married man, this can damage the reputation of this lady both in the team and in society as a whole;

- with the "sword of Damocles" there is always a danger of finding out the relationship with the wife of this man (sometimes with his other relatives);

- communication with those unmarried men with whom at that time it was possible to create alternative relationships and build a family is complicated or even excluded;

- over the years, the figure and face deteriorate, due to irregular intimacy and a long absence of pregnancy (or abortions), problems with women's health begin;

- the most important thing is that that life time is leaving, during which it would be possible to officially marry someone and give birth to children.

Absolutely any girl who maintains a love relationship with a married man is clearly aware of all this. She also understands that if no one guarantees her a happy marriage with this man in the future, then her female future may be unenviable. But if she holds out next to a more or less successful married lover in life for more than two or three years, medium-term disadvantages can turn into long-term advantages. But this can only happen if the unmarried mistress of a married man chooses a long-term strategy for herself.

So that you understand the whole logic of the process of male infidelity, as well as all the nuances of the strategies of mistresses, first I will try to show you from the perspective of a woman. So, when a certain girl has sex with a married man, she has the opportunity to use at least seven basic scenarios for the development of love relationships. Which, in combination, will also be scenarios for the development of her life as a whole. Here they are:

Who is a mistress? or how she treats a married man!

Scenario # 1. Put a married lover in the general row of your other men. This behavior is typical for girls who are prone to an active and broken life, easily going to establish intimate relationships. Such girls can be good people, but due to the lack of clear life plans and goals in their heads, it is very difficult to communicate with them. Their trouble is that they themselves do not know what they need in life and why they need married lovers.

In this scenario of life, a girl always has several parallel connections at once. And there may be several married men. Therefore, having started another one in essence - another relationship with a "married man", the girl does not consider it necessary to somehow change her behavior and adapt it to someone else. Accepting gifts and offers to go to a sauna, a nightclub or spend a night in a hotel, she continues to have a lot of personal time, does not like to report on where, how and with whom she communicates, has the courage to periodically refuse dates.

Of course, this causes irritation and jealousy of a married man. Hence, the likelihood of such a girl losing her married lover is very high, the relationship rarely lasts long. In the end, an intelligent married man, realizing that he is risking a lot for the sake of one for whom the loss of himself is not a big tragedy, prefers to close this romance on his own. Or the girl herself may leave him if she has someone more promising and / or wealthy. However, if a married man is not very smart, even after a formal refusal to meet, he can stubbornly run after such a mistress for some time.

Scenario # 2. Make a married lover a leading sponsor, milk as much as possible in the here and now. This scenario is typical for girls who are deeply confident in their bright appearance and / or intimate relaxedness. Also for girls of a capricious and bitchy character who are not very fond of working, who are already accustomed to living off of men who regularly update their assortment. Unlike “just girls” from scenario # 1, these girls generally have a good idea of what exactly they want to get in life and what they can count on today. Including, relying on the opportunities that their married lovers present to them as barter for sex.

Assuming that these relationships are not promising, they will not lead to marriage, realizing that they should not be cherished, being confident in their female charms for other men, such a girl does not just communicate with a man for some time, but frankly and cynically “divorces »Its on expensive gifts and restaurants, clubs and fur coats, cars and vacation at sea.

Scenario number 3. Become a reliable partner in the professional activities of a married lover. This scenario is the best option for smart and hardworking girls with a dull appearance and / or no home of their own. However, a beauty with an apartment and a car can go according to this scenario, so long as she is not afraid of work and is smart.

The essence of the scenario is that if a girl works (or goes to work) where her married lover works (in the budget), or where he is the owner of a business or a manager, then she can deeply integrate into work, show herself as a valuable employee: accountant, manager, lawyer, director, etc. Hence, in this couple, simultaneously with intimate relationships (or even earlier), it is of great importance that partners turn out to be mutually useful in developing a career and making money. If the wife of a given man cannot boast of her direct usefulness for her husband's career or the growth of his income, then the man begins to think that such a hard-working mistress is the dream of his whole life. She definitely always has something to talk about, she can help make the right decision, and she is ready for sex at any time …

Scenario # 4. Love, wait, hope and believe. This truly classic scenario is the most common, sung many times in poetry and prose, highly risky, but also highly effective. A girl can be absolutely anyone, as long as she has an agreeable character, high sexual activity, monitors her appearance, satiety and grooming of her married chosen one. In this case, time is of paramount importance, that is, the duration of the connection itself. A lover who is smart and / or who has fallen in love with her married man should turn into a long-term one at any cost.

How a caterpillar becomes a butterfly only by becoming a pupa, so a mistress can become a lawful wife, only a few years playing the role of the wife of a civilian.

In general, to become a wife, a girl, like a butterfly, also for some time you have to be a chrysalis.

Scenario # 5. Help a man become more successful in life. This option outwardly resembles option No. 3, with the only difference that in option No. 3 the man is initially richer and more successful, and in option No. 5 the girl is immediately more successful. At the same time, she does not at all need to be very rich and successful, a director, a boss or a business owner. For a man - a locksmith, a loader, a worker at a construction site or a factory, a driver, a security guard (etc.), even a girl will be more successful - a commodity expert, manager, cook, sales representative, engineer, teacher, law enforcement officer (and etc.), having a higher education, an apartment and / or a car, a stable income. In this case, an unmarried girl can sincerely fall in love with a problematic married man, and he, perfectly understanding all her advantages and the ability to harness her to the shafts of his not most successful life, will never let her go.

Outwardly, such a relationship will also resemble the classic scenario # 4, but their inner essence will be different. In option No. 4, there is more mutual love between a man and a woman; in option No. 5, a man is more calculating than a lover who is sincerely attached to him.

Scenario number 6. Get pregnant on the fly, without understanding the specifics and prospects of the relationship. This is a very motley group of girls of the most diverse in their mental, social, age and property potential. They are all united by a very frivolous attitude towards the possibility of getting pregnant not just outside of marriage, but outside of marriage with a man who, in fact, is already married to a completely different girl.

Pregnancy from a married man, even if the girl herself assures that she is planned both on her side and on the side of her married gentleman, reminds me of a car crossing a double solid line. When crossing one line is already a violation, and even for breaking a double solid line and driving into the oncoming lane is generally punished very severely. Sometimes, even the driving license is taken away … So, in the case of pregnancy, everything is exactly the same from a married man.

In these options, indeed, everything can end in divorce followed by a wedding. This, however, does not mean that in this new married couple, which has rapidly emerged after the conception of a child, there will be no friction and problems in the future. Most likely, they will still be. But I already wrote about this in my book "How to Assess the Strength of Your Marriage" and I will not repeat myself now.

Scenario # 7. Fighting a girl with her married lover in a mixed style. Most often, this means that:

- the girl, starting with scenario number 1, then proceeds to scenario number 2;

- the girl, starting with scenario # 2, then proceeds to scenario # 1;

- the girl, starting with scenario # 1, then moves on to scenarios # 3 or # 4;

- the girl, starting with scenario # 2, then moves on to scenarios # 3 or # 4;

- the girl, starting with scenario # 7, then proceeds to scenario # 2;

- the girl, starting with scenario # 7, then moves on to scenarios # 4 or # 5;

If the relationship lasts long enough, there may be a wide variety of shifts and alternations of scenarios. However, I declare with authority that the most dangerous for family relationships are scenarios # 3 and # 4. Especially if they are closely intertwined. They should be recognized as "a means of mass destruction of families." Therefore, I should dwell on them, especially Scenario # 4, in more detail. Which will now be done in the next chapter.

Summing up

Who is a mistress? or how she treats a married man! It may seem to someone that the most dangerous scenario for a family of male infidelity is still scenario # 6, when the mistress becomes pregnant. However, I draw your attention to how many single mothers around us! At least half of them are just those girls who relied too much on the magical meaning of a child for their men. However, alas: at least half of fully adult men, in their thinking and behavior, are themselves playful children, unable to bear full responsibility for their behavior. And, like children, they often run away when they find out that they have done something there. Their friends and children are paying for them. Usually by my loneliness. Hence, I beg you to never follow the path of scenario # 6. As mentioned above, in practice it turns out to be successful only as a continuation of scenarios # 3 and # 4.

So I shared with you Who is a mistress? or how she treats a married man! And you men to draw conclusions!

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