2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"Experience is the son of difficult mistakes"
A person is often afraid to make a mistake. Therefore, he gives up in front of difficulties, not trying to overcome.
Mistake is followed by guilt, shame, fear. In order not to plunge into complex experiences, he does not even start a business that is within his power and "buries talent" in the ground. And God will ask: "Why didn't you use the inherent abilities and didn't take advantage of the opportunities provided?"
It is, of course, important to consider actions and consequences. What if the mistake turns out to be deadly.
However, sometimes the thought process becomes total and stops activity.
Look at a small child trying to take the first step. Before that, he had hundreds of unsuccessful, erroneous attempts. However, the toddler gets up after falling and makes another attempt to learn to walk.
It takes 1000 mistakes to develop a skill. And in the end - success. Errors, like pillars on the track, help you orient yourself on the terrain. If you study carefully the zone of error, examine your own weak link, then the error will turn into Success.
Carlos Castaneda told a parable:
“The teacher and the student were riding along a rocky road in a cart. A snake was crawling along the road. The apprentice braked sharply. The master said: "Today you have not run over the tail of the snake, and tomorrow it will run over its head."
The snake has not received experience and will lose its life.
A certain amount of frustration is needed to gain life experience.
“Behind him is life experience. And once there were wings."
A young girl in pink glasses happily flies towards life. Sometimes, like a moth, into a flame. And burns and makes mistakes.
Parents try to protect them from mistakes. But a mistake is a lesson. Mistakes contribute to the formation of life experience. After all, experience is not formed from the stories of others.
Mental injury is a wound. Sharp pain at first. Then the wound hurts, aches and itches. You want to touch her - talk about her. A scar remains as a memory tag. Experience is built from such scars.
If a similar situation looms on the horizon, Intuition will scratch the scar and the person will bypass the dangerous place.
The mistake of the past is the wisdom of the future.
In the film "I Can't Say Goodbye" Sergei found true love, going through a dastardly betrayal.
Popular wisdom says: "There would be no happiness, but misfortune helped."
Everything is relative
A peasant son fell off his horse and broke his leg. The villagers groaned: "Unhappy cripple."
The war soon began and the young men were taken to the front. And the guy with the broken leg stayed at home. The villagers were jealous: "How lucky."
The peasant's horse ran away from the yard. The village lamented: "How can you manage the farm without a horse."
But the horse returned and brought the horse behind it. An unexpected addition. The village was jealous: "That's lucky."
The same situation caused diametrically opposite reactions in the same people. For example, a broken leg in peacetime caused horror, and in wartime - relief.
It depends on the background that highlights this situation, on the context.
Everything in life is relative and is cognized in comparison.
Therefore, do not rush to make judgments.
The wise people had a saying: "Whatever is done, it is for the better." It's just that this best is not immediately recognized.
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