2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The formation of the child's personality in his childhood is influenced by the adults who are significant for him. This is his closest circle: parents, siblings (sisters, brothers), grandfathers, grandmothers, aunts, uncles …
All of them in one way or another significantly affect the emotional world of the child, his personal self-worth.
But there is another social figure who, without a doubt, becomes extremely important for the child.
This is his first elementary school teacher.
A person who teaches a child to learn, first of all. Opens the path to the world of new knowledge and unusual impressions.
The first teacher is a special teacher in the life of a little student, who helps him to master the previously unknown life experience.
When a child goes to first grade, his psyche and inner world are still being formed. There is an active process of maturation of mental processes, the nervous system, the emotional-sensory sphere.
And most importantly, what a child is psychologically “eating” and what affects him is the emotional attitude of his significant environment towards him.
Function "Id" - feelings, emotions, how a child lives in childhood. Therefore, all children love to play, because it is in such a playful, free, imaginative, not oppressive form that it is easier to cognize the diversity of the world around them. Learn to interact in it. Through the game. And it is in the creative process that a child can express his feelings and emotions, revealing his inner world and getting in touch with the outer world. Which undoubtedly has a positive impact on his development as a person.
Children are sensitive and vulnerable creatures. Sincere and trusting when they feel safe for themselves.
They are offended, indignant and cry if they do not like something, rejoice and have fun if their world is filled with calmness and harmony. And something or someone makes them laugh …
And also, they just feel good about being loved and accepted for who they are. With their uniqueness and individual characteristics.
So, in my opinion, acceptance is a very important "component" in a relationship with a child.
In the contact of interaction with the first teacher for the child, this very acceptance is extremely important for him.
Try to remember (those who are reading these lines) your first teacher. What feelings does this person, image evoke?
I think that no one will remain indifferent.
Even years later, a person in one way or another, recalling the image of the first significant “alien” social sample, most likely feels and feels certain emotions associated with this image. His first teacher.
A person who evokes positive and warm feelings or this image is painted with rather complex "colors".
And sometimes memories are completely repressed and go deep into the subconscious. This means that such an adult may have "gotten well" from his first teacher. That I don’t want to remember!
The primary school teacher bears a moral responsibility to every child in the class. The way he treats the little person will lay the foundation for his personal self-esteem (along with the attitude of his parents towards him).
It is the emotional attitude of the teacher that either supports the child and teaches him to overcome the inevitable difficulties in the learning process. Or - it contributes to the fact that the little student closes in himself, does not reveal his potential and loses interest in learning in principle.
And then he is only forced to learn, "pressured" on him, manipulated by his helplessness in front of big, authoritative and strong adults.
And the way out is different, of course. To create conditions in which the child will have an interest and motivation to learn.
And this directly depends for the little person, how his significant adults treat him. Among them is his first primary school teacher.
It is clear that children are all different. Some are more sensitive, some less … And some have strong psychological support at home, in spite of all the critical and evaluative judgments of the teacher.
And there are parents who themselves are afraid of teachers. For them, the opinion of such a specialist is an indisputable truth. Moreover, whatever it may be … When a teacher evaluates their child negatively, they feel like "bad" parents and "poor" … And, of course, they get upset, worried.
In this case, it turns out that the teacher has a lot of power, both in relation to the student and to his parents. And the opinion of the teacher is overvalued and too significant. Meanwhile, teachers, and accordingly primary school teachers, are living, ordinary people. And each with its own "unique energy". People who have their own personal difficulties are faced with age and professional crises.
And they can transfer their "mental incapacity" to the environment. On the (emotionally) dependent students, and sometimes their parents.
As a result, they may not always be objective about little students, as well as about the capabilities of their parents. Due to their personal limitations.
The teacher can afford to yell (shout too loudly) in front of everyone at the child, humiliate him, be rude in general, relieve his inner tension or reject the child by ignoring …
For a small person with his fragile psyche, this can be too stressful. And, of course, it significantly affects the productivity of his training. Or rather, it complicates this process.
It seems to me that for an elementary school student, as such, educational knowledge is somewhat secondary in comparison with the emotional component.
After all, if you create a favorable psychological climate for a child and an appropriate environment for him, then he himself will begin to learn with pleasure and actively participate in the educational process, showing his age-specific interest and curiosity in everything new.
And, if any difficulties arise, which is inevitable in teaching, then, of course, both parents and the teacher should, I believe, show maximum patience and understanding that each person has his own individual natural pace. And you shouldn't speed up the process by violent methods.
After all, if the pupa of a butterfly is prematurely opened, then it will never fly … You just need to give it its own time for maturation and growth.
So it is for the little man. Do not overly persist there, for which he is not yet ready.
In the end, even the weakest (in the academic sense) student learns "somehow" to read, count, write and, in his own way, think after leaving school.
The bottom line is that knowledge can be conveyed in one form or another, but it is much more difficult to restore a traumatized psyche in a child …
In my opinion, the very first teacher in school for a child is a guide not only to the world of knowledge, but also contributes to the learning of this knowledge "to obtain", inspiring and supporting the student, where appropriate. Also, the first teacher in a child's life helps to "open a window" into the world of social interpersonal relationships.
And the formation of a child's self-worth, trust in the world, basic social security depends on how qualitative these relations will be, and helps to develop his inner support, faith in himself, his capabilities and abilities. Develops and helps the child to reveal his inner potential in later life and study …
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