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To manage your anger, you must first accept it. You cannot accept your anger without recognizing anger as a good feeling.
In this article I will cite work on accepting anger and myself in anger of my client in scenario therapy (permission to Publish received).
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Suppressed anger - This is part of the No Feelings scenario of many girls and women, as the suppression of anger and aggression is part of the social programming of little girls.
They grow up and find boys as husbands who easily transgress boundaries. Often, the docile girl scenario arises as a conflict with the real father in childhood.
Anger Management: How to Accept Feelings of Anger
A short story of my client, before a story that explains how the girl forbade herself to be angry:
It probably still makes sense to say that the man for me played in many ways the role of a father. I expected that he would provide for me, teach me, tell me fairy tales before bed (literally) and generally take care of my father in every possible way. Even during sex, I sometimes imagined that I was having sex with my dad. I don't remember any incest stories from my childhood. Mom and Dad divorced when I was 5 years old. Worried painfully, blamed myself for being a bad childand he went to make others.
Before the divorce, the client was often witness to scenes of quarrels between mom and dad. Mom shouted, smashed dishes, in general expressed her displeasure (anger) in every possible way.
A 5-year-old girl, seeing that dad left for another, decided: "When I grow up I will be smarter than mom, I will be kind and caring, and I can keep any partner."
The script decision "not to be like my mother" and enshrined in her the ban on anger.
I give homework in my sessions, in this case I asked the client to make a list of reasons why expressing anger is good.
Why Expressing Anger Is Good - My Client List
- Expressing Anger is good because it helps you protect yourself and keep yourself out of harm's way.
- Expressing Anger is good because it is energy that you can use to grow your business.
- Expressing Anger is good because by expressing it, I release the energy that could get stuck in my body and cause illness. Controlling anger is difficult, and releasing anger eases the general condition of the body and psyche.
- Expressing Anger is good, because by expressing and accepting it, I allow myself to be anything and to be in any state, I do not need to pretend
- Expressing Anger is good, because anger is the energy of action, it is easier to move forward with it.
- Expressing anger is good because it shows others how not to treat me and does not allow others to manipulate me.
- Expressing anger is good because expressing anger makes me strong.
- Expressing anger is good, because it allows you to conquer new territories, expand your sphere of influence.
- Expressing anger is good because I have a lot of it and when I express it, I feel incredible relief and release.
- Expressing anger is good because it gives you the opportunity to be sincere and make it clear to people what is important to me and that I am not afraid to talk openly about it. Therefore, anger makes it possible to build honest, open and deep relationships with those around you.
This assignment was designed to solve the problem of accepting thoughts about. that anger is a good feeling.
How to embrace anger: 5 past examples of expressing anger
Much more difficult for my client (how smart she is!) Was given the task to recall 5 examples from her past where it would be a good strategy to talk about her anger.
- When Mom and Dad divorced, I should have gotten angry and said that it hurt and hurt me that this is happening. I am angry that no one has explained the reasons for me and does not say that he loves me and I have nothing to do with it.
- I should have openly told my boyfriend's sister that she was being rude and inappropriate with me. You had to express your anger, protect yourself, and put her in her place.
- In a conflict with the ex, you had to defend your position and not allow yourself to talk to you like that.
- I should have been angry at my first love, when he lied and manipulated, and said that I should not be treated like this.
- I should have gotten angry with my partner when he hit me on the head and clearly indicated that it was impossible with me, defend myself and express anger.
As you can see, this assignment shows my charge, situations where anger is the upholding and protection of psychological and physical boundaries.
We continue to work on accepting and teaching socially acceptable forms of expression and expression of angry feelings. Thanks to the diligence and courage of the Client, our work is getting on well.
What successful forms of accepting anger do you know?
I will not be angry with you if you share the article on social networks, not a bit!
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