How To Understand That The Past Is Already Really The Past?

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How To Understand That The Past Is Already Really The Past?
How To Understand That The Past Is Already Really The Past?
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Have you ever thought that you can write a novel based on the events that happened in your life ?! Very exciting and exciting, filled with tragic and beautiful stories of life and love, sincere friendship or desperate betrayal. You carry these stories in your memory and heart, you are fascinated by them and charm others, they touch the soul of even the most sensitive and vulnerable, close and dear ones make you worry about you, and intellectuals are carried away by the complexity of interweaving, confusion and your honor and courage. If this is all about you, read on

If, however, you have the desire and some opportunities to translate your story into some edition, even if only you will read it, this is already good, if others will see it, it is simply wonderful. The main thing is not to live permanently in this novel, as is often the case with those who like to read. After all, strangers are carried away and immersed in your history, and you are already deeply in it and connected for life. That is why it is important to make a certain story, even the most important and heartbreaking, a separate volume of your life and put it on the shelf of memories, and not keep it on your desktop or always have it with you! Thus, you can preserve your mental and physical health without carrying this burden of memories, even very pleasant ones, like the actual situation of your present life. I think it is worth deciding on some "markers" that the past has truly become the past. These will be a series of distinctive behaviors and small recommendations.

You do not remember this person every day, waking up and falling asleep. No matter how dear to you a person from the past, about yourself and your needs

You should think more often and enjoy your own life.

You are not looking for someone like him (her) in passers-by. When you so want to prolong the pleasure of special memories, it is so nice to see a very similar person (although, on the contrary, it may be unbearably painful) to the one who once occupied all your thoughts and feelings. The maximum that you can do is smile and say to yourself: "It was, it was …" and move on, and not stand staring intently in search of contact or accidental touch. People just might be similar.

You are not visiting "general" places. Every day your trip to work, study, rest can go the same way where you once were together. Try, at least for the first time, to change the route, but not to exclude it (this is fundamentally important!). Sometimes take the risk of walking in the same place and listening to yourself how you feel, try to separate your own feelings "here and now" from shared experiences from the past.

You do not view his (her) photos regularly. It is worth not giving the opportunity for information to be imprinted in your memory for a while, because you may get the feeling that a person is still in our life. Too good, looking at the photos, we studied the features of our beloved face. Give your memory a chance to rest and your heart to dull the memories. So that later looking at the photos, you can just smile.

You are not tracking a person's life on social media. For me, this is a modern disease that penetrates the brain and consciousness of a person through social networks. This can resemble an obsession and do not bring anything good and pleasant, creating the illusion of knowing the life of another and controlling events. I wrote more than one article about this.

You don't think about a situation that happened in the past, every day or several times a day. This tragedy, or vice versa, a sweet moment can occupy your entire being, seemingly penetrating into the very depths of your subconscious. You can feel one with your memories. Try to be distracted by other activities and activities as much as possible. If you can't do it yourself, ask for help, because it is very difficult.

Your home is not covered with photographs and gifts. Your home and study should not be a museum! Leave more room for real life!

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When you are asked about someone who was once important to you, you feel that he is from the past! It is difficult to describe in words, but this is when you feel that he was, and not is now!

I hope when you feel it, you will understand what I mean.

I wish you a speedy "healing" and relief! So that people who have been in our life for a long time remain a pleasant memory, and not an acute pain, when remembering them, we can simply and easily smile.

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