2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We talk about grief due to the loss of loved ones, due to divorce, due to the death of pets and the loss of a job, but much less often the recognition of grief that is caused by an involuntary termination of pregnancy is received, despite the fact that this is a common problem - from 15% to 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. The lack of talk about miscarriages is one of the reasons many women experience emptiness and loneliness.
Grieving is a highly individualized phenomenon, everyone grieves in their own way. But there are patterns, one of them is the need to speak out the loss, the other is the need to accept pain. Attempts to escape from her often result in her strengthening. But we can say that there are other patterns - patterns that help ease the course of grief, including in the case of an interrupted pregnancy. Based on them, you can give advice on how to get over the grief due to an interrupted pregnancy:
- Talking to someone who understands you about your loss and your feelings can have a healing effect.
- Accept your feelings - this can be a wide variety of experiences: pain, disappointment, exhaustion, relief. You have the right to experience them.
- If you are a believer, then you can find relief in prayer.
- You can write yourself a letter about your feelings, emotions and experiences.
Psychologist Alyssia Del Prado, who has herself grieved over a miscarriage, writes that there is no right time during which you are allowed to think or feel about a miscarriage. Take as much time as you need and your thoughts and feelings will likely change over time. She also advises to pay attention to your strengths. Think about how you went through difficulties in the past and see if these strategies work now.
If your pain is too strong, lasts for a long time, guilt accompanies you, or you cannot switch from the worries around the loss - contact a psychologist, he will not relieve you of grief, but will help you get through it easier.
The article used materials:
Karptsova Svetlana, Khristenko Oleg "To survive the grief"
Alicia Del Prado "Miscarriage: The Unspoken Loss"
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