How To Find Your Femininity And Sexuality?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Many women think they have some kind of femininity problem. Like they're not 100% female. That softness is not enough, then cunning, then useless sexuality, then something else. All this triggers heavy and traumatic suffering that determines the whole female destiny and not for the better. A woman feels herself incomplete, unfinished, shame and guilt, her main companions for decades.

But all this suffering, torment, experiments on one's body and soul, which are more reminiscent of bullying, pleasing world standards, everything comes from stereotyped thinking, from the imposed stereotypes of the consumer society.

There cannot be one standard of femininity for all women! It is convenient for society, for the fashion and cosmetology industries. But in nature this does not happen! Everything is varied and multicolored.

How many women are so much and femininity. Billions of forms of femininity. Rough, harsh, closed, affectionate, tender, languid. Your family system needs your individual femininity. Even if you wear trousers all the time, smoke and be rude - this is all a manifestation of femininity. That's it. Individual.

How many women are so much and sexuality. Billions of forms of female sexuality. Cold, rejecting, frigid, relaxed, soft, pliable. Your family system needs your individual sexuality. Even if you change men like gloves, or you live your whole life with one partner, or you have never experienced an orgasm, or you don’t want to live with anyone at all. That's it. Individual.

When a woman is chasing a social template, she betrays her true femininity and sexuality. She stops being herself and puts on a mask. Forcing herself to wear skirts or jeans, forcing herself to be with a man so that they would not think bad about her, although she dreams of living alone, forbids herself to enjoy herself with others in order to suffer with one, because then they will talk about her that she is slutty. A woman forever closes access to her power, to her uniqueness. Rejection and self-loathing as it is becomes destructive and dangerous.

It was in this state that Anastasia came to the constellation. It did not go well with her husband, she constantly broke herself and adjusted herself to other people's rules, but it only got worse. There was a lot of sexuality and feminine power in her, which she rejected because she really wanted to be like the image of "the right wife and ideal mother for her children" inspired by her mother. During the placement, Anastasia looked with amazement at what she really was: luxurious, attractive, charming. She had an attitude that such women always cheat on their husbands, hence the prohibition with which she lived her entire family life - I have no right to individual sexuality and femininity, nobody will need me like that. In the constellation, a decision was received for enjoying oneself, for the right to be oneself, for open sexuality and femininity with her husband. Your own, individual. And not stereotyped, convenient for the consumer society. Anastasia had a feeling of inner happiness, she stopped engaging in self-criticism and self-criticism, the expectations that someone should reveal her sexuality and make her feminine were gone. As it turned out, she was already born with this and everything was inside her, she just had to muster up the courage and say “yes” to herself. After all, we often say “no” to ourselves, I will not be myself, so that they would love me and need me, I will become comfortable and correct for others.

All that a person needs is already inside him, it is important to unpack or open access to it, all that needs to be done is to risk a meeting with himself. True, you can still continue to chase social patterns and then a meeting with yourself, with your innate femininity and sexuality may never happen.