2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why did I say that ?! One of the aspects of the work of a family psychologist is “translation from female to male, and from male to female”. On this occasion, you can smile and even laugh, if not for the huge number of family conflicts and divorces, which are associated with a problem in communication and understanding not only between specific men and women, but also between the sexes in general.
For example, I regularly engage in reconciliation of families, where the following ten classic female sayings became one of the key points of disagreement between spouses:
13 disastrous phrases of women, after which the relationship with her husband will never be the same:
1. I don’t want you as a man for a long time! Anyway, I never felt good with you in bed! I simulated all my orgasms to please you! And now I'm tired of doing this! Know: before you, I had men with whom sex was much more interesting!
2. Eh, I shouldn't have married you! It was necessary to agree to a marriage with the "ex", which was before you (or in parallel with you). I was a fool to become your wife! Now I have to suffer all my life …
3. Leave me alone with your sex! How many times I say, I don't need so much! Be a big boy, finally cheat on me! Find yourself someone on the side, meet on the Internet and solve your intimate problems on your own, but don't bother me!
4. Don't touch me with your hands! Do not hug, do not try to put up and kiss! You disgust me! You are a slug, not a man, rag! You are not worthy of me!
5. I'm already tired of you! Fuck you "on …!" I made the final decision: I will definitely divorce you! All, next week I will file for divorce! So you should know!
6. That's it, got it! If you don't like something - leave! Pack your things and take off wherever you want! To mom or to the dacha, it's up to you. Deliver me from your presence!
7. I'm tired of looking at you! Let's live separately and think about our relationship for at least a couple of months. If I feel bad without you, I will call you back. If I feel comfortable without you, we will file for divorce.
8. How many times have I told you: this is my apartment! You enter it, as you came with your things, and you will go back with your things! If you want to set your own rules, buy your home first! In the meantime, close your mouth and shut up in a rag!
9. You are the same fool as your parents! I’ll call them to take you back to my hole where you came from.
10. I'm sorry that I gave birth to children just from you! Where did my eyes look ?! She passed on such problem genes to her own children! Now they must suffer and I must suffer! Never again will I give you a face, understand ?! And I will take away the children, forever!
11. Have you forgotten who you were before me? I will remind you! You were Nobody and there was no way to call you! If not for me, you would still vegetate at the bottom of your life (further options are possible)! I picked you up and washed you, put my soul into you, you ungrateful creature! Give me back everything that I gave you and we part!
12. You are a weakling! You can't even hit me, because you are not a man!
13. You are such a loser that not a normal woman will fall for you! Nobody needs you in this world except me! It's just me collecting such rubbish. I would be very surprised if any of the women take you seriously at all! I am very sorry for her in advance.
With these statements, which in my classification refer to the block called “Why did I say that? Who pulled me by the tongue ?! three things are surprising:
- The women themselves do not see "nothing so terrible" in them and do not put any fatal meaning into them.
- Having said this, women, then calmly reconcile and believe that it is possible and necessary to continue further with the very husband, to whom all this was said. And they are very surprised that their man took it all seriously.
- Having calmed the indignant husband with great difficulty or even returning him back, women rarely draw the right conclusions from the situation and, after some time, again use something from the list. Sometimes, for the last time, since the wounded husband never returns to the family with such a wife.
I can even assume that even now, reading these lines, some of my readers may shrug their shoulders in surprise and say: “Well, what's so-and-so ?! The woman boiled, so she said, in the hearts. There is no subject for conversation at all! You never know what a woman can say! Forget and live on! " But as a psychologist, I responsibly declare: "Women's logic:" I harshly sent him to where far away, with the sole purpose that he immediately hugged me, kissed me, and from now on showed more attention to me! " works poorly for those men who have at least some respect for themselves.
The fact is that in the male community there is an attitude that the assessments pronounced aloud reflect the true attitude of a person to something or someone. And if a wife tells her husband that he does not suit her as a man and as a person, she does not respect him and wants him to leave or find someone else for himself, then most men will be completely naive and will think so! That is, he will accept offensive statements against him at face value. Hence, according to male logic, he is obliged to start reacting to these statements immediately! That is, do not touch your wife anymore; stop sleeping with your wife in the same bed; move out of the apartment; register on a dating site; start a new relationship and file for divorce.
And a man, as a rule, does not understand women's expectations, when, in response to insults addressed to him, a man must hug his wife, urgently buy her flowers and arrange a sexual extravaganza at night. The wife, in turn, wonders why, after her angry tirade, relations in the family are completely paralyzed: after all, in fact, they should have noticeably warmed up!
The most important thing is that after several such situations, men begin to consider their wives "unpredictable crazy brawlers", stop seeing the prospect of maintaining a relationship and secretly prepare an "alternate airfield" in the form of buying another apartment or looking for another woman. And they are completely unaware that their wife, at this moment in time, does not see any problems in the common future and is in happy ignorance that her husband is offended, withdrawn and tuned in to divorce.
In view of the brevity of the article, I will not describe how the male view of the world is formed, but I would like to appeal to respected women: “If you really feel all the negative emotions that were described above for your husband, I think it’s right to vigorously and timely part with those men that did not take place as men, unable to show their masculine behavior. And in this case, I urge you to be consistent along the way. They said: "leave or get divorced!" - means, do not return and divorce. They said “get yourself a mistress!”, So do not be surprised when you find out about her. They said: “Don't touch me,” that means don't bother yourself with kisses. They said: "We will live separately," do not be surprised when the husband will rent an apartment. Etc.
But, if your husband is not completely bad, and you actually do not plan to divorce him, proceed from seven simple attitudes:
Seven rules for treating women with male pride:
1. Keep in mind that men take everything literally, especially during conflicts.
2. Always think about what kind of meaning can be put into your words and how they can be interpreted by your husband, his relatives and friends.
3. Do not say to your husband what you really do not want!
4. Know that blows to male pride automatically lead to the end of intimate relationships in the family and the accumulation of funds to leave the family.
five. If you hurt a man's pride, be able to apologize in time and immediately for it.
6. If your apology is accepted by your husband, always exclude the repetition of such situations.
7. If you regularly insult your man, do not be surprised if one day he leaves for another woman and does not return.
Actually, that's all. I really hope that those women who are not enemies to themselves and their female happiness will hear me.
As for men, please:
- first, let your wife read this article (if she behaves as described);
- secondly, to behave in the family with dignity. That is, so that your wife does not even have a reason to speak out to you in a negative way.
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