What I Think Of Myself Is Not Equal To What Others Think Of Me

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Recently, I have been faced with the fact that people need to write their strengths, their pluses, values and achievements. Many get lost and start talking about themselves in a standard way and it feels like they are taking answers from a resume. And besides the work sphere, we are still in different spheres of life. Our values in different areas are in some ways the same, and in some ways different.

I am a friend. I am an employee. I'm professional. I am mom / dad. I am a son / daughter. I am a take / sister. I am a nephew / niece. I am an aunt / uncle. I'm godmother / godfather. I am a spouse. I am a simple passer-by on the street. And there are a lot of our roles. And each role has its own plus, its own strength, its own value.

We sometimes do not notice the values that we have. And often it becomes a revelation for us what others think of us. I often let my clients write 100 values themselves. However, not everyone can cope)))) Then I ask to ask for help from their friends, relatives, parents. Each time the result is amazing, impressive and delightful. There is no limit to surprise. People do not even know what their value to others and what they admire. For many it was a discovery that they are being followed by an example.

What do I offer you?

Write a letter to someone you love. The letter can be handwritten or typed. This can be a "letter" in the form of a message in one of the messengers. If you don't like writing letters, dictate an audio message. It doesn't matter in what form the message will be from you. It is important that it reaches the addressee. In this case, the content of the letter plays a role. The form can be arbitrary, or it can have a certain structure.

I offer my own structure. Write what you like about a person: his qualities, some part of the body, some deeds or actions. What do you admire. What are you inspired by? What is he for you an example. What is especially valuable to you. Perhaps something that you envy (in this case, I see envy as something I want to strive for and what I need for this, i.e. envy as a motivator). If there are situations in life in which you remember this person and the thought of him helps you, then also do not forget to write about this.

What else can you do to complement this letter? It can be designed as a gift and such a gift can be called "Inspiration", or "Antigrustin", or "Box with Mood". Once upon a time, one agency gave me something like this: a box containing a wish for the coming year and a small bottle of a drink. In a box for someone you love, you can put his favorite sweets, chocolates, chewing gum:), a joint photo, a postcard, some small object that he likes (girls often love something from the office), a bag of delicious tea with cookies. In general, fantasy will help you.

It is very important if the mother writes such a letter to her daughter. From personal experience I can share. My mother somehow supported me and wrote such a wonderful SMS about who I am in her eyes. Many years have passed, and the memory of this SMS still evokes warmth inside me and a smile on my face.

By the way, the man is also very pleased to receive such letters.

Do not be lazy, do something nice to people close to you, and you will see how there will be no limit to their gratitude, happiness and joy.