How We Mirror Others And Others Us

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

We are perfect in our imperfection. Perhaps this is the only perfection that is present in us. We most often see our imperfection in others. They say that people are our mirrors. We reflect to each other exactly what is in us. It responds within and instead of analyzing ourselves, we look at the other.

Moreover, this does not mean that we behave like another person. Perhaps we have learned to hide our reactions well. And also the reflection can be in us in the form of thought. We only admit the possibility. She scares us. We drive these thoughts away. And then a person appears who, by his actions, translates our thought. Knowing that she is not very good, we begin to reject her in something else.

Everything that happens to us is the result of our actions or inaction. It is important to understand where and in what format we laid this result. Sometimes a little thing can turn into something more significant. Or the lack of informed choices. We were just doing something, but we can't really explain why. “Everyone does that,” is the only thing we can say.

However, in history there are cases when not only generations of families, but also traditionally among the people, there were mistakes under the single slogan "everyone does this." This is an experience that we can enjoy today. Thanks to the people who changed the course of history, we have been given the opportunity to have more diverse information. Someone was not afraid to show their awareness, and we are already less limited in information.

What else has awareness given us?

Recognition of mistakes and imperfections. There is a place for this. We understand that we can be wrong and let others do it. There is another option though. When we are so afraid of being imperfect that we do not allow ourselves to live. We are demanding of ourselves and others. And since we ourselves fail (from time to time), we are very happy to criticize others for their mistakes. In this case, understanding, flexibility, sensitivity disappears. Only our ego comes to the fore. It begins to tell the interlocutor that he is wrong.

But initially our requirements for ourselves are so high that we cannot cope with them. We try, but psychologically we can't stand it, although outwardly it seems that we seem to correspond to our own inner perfection.

The fact that we fail is supported by what is reflected in situations where people mirror our imperfection.

They don't hear us - we need to think, but do we know how to listen and understand another?

They are inattentive to us - to which people do we ourselves show inattention?

My partner doesn't devote enough time to relationships - what kind of relationships do we not devote time to?

There are egoists next to us - and in what situations do we manifest ourselves so selfishly that it is very difficult for others to deal with it?

The list is endless. Each has his own. The main thing is that we start thinking about the requirements that we present to others.

If you feel that your gaze falls on someone's imperfection, think about why it responds so in you. You may be struggling very hard with it. I admit that you do not accept this imperfection in yourself. That is why it evokes such a protest within you.

Every time you feel imperfection in others, show kindness, first of all to yourself.