2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
No matter how much the parents give love, we will always have little. Every child, regardless of his age, whether he is 3 years old or 50 years old, wants more love from his parents.
And we do not just want their love and attention, we want it to be according to our desires. As at the age from 0 to 1 year old: wanted to eat, cried, mother fed; my tummy hurts, I cried, my mother took it on her arms. Mom does what I want.
No matter how strong our love for brothers, sisters, dad is, but in childhood it seems to us that these people take our mother away from us. From this moment, the first grievances begin, as mom leaves. Our center of the universe is leaving us. Why doesn't she constantly carry me in her arms? What's going on with this mom? How can she do this to me?
There, in that little man, the first thoughts are born that mom does not love enough. And then this is confirmed throughout life. And we are trying by any means to arouse love in my mother. But it is exactly the love that we want, and not the one that mom gives us. This is where our egoism manifests itself. We do not notice the love that mom knows how to give. And at the same time, it always seems to us that she gives more to her brothers, sisters, grandchildren and is definitely not fair in her love.
As we get older, we start to notice dad, and he can be the one who compensates for mom's love. But dad is not mom. And we also share dad with brothers, sisters, grandchildren (if any).
We understand intellectually that parents always do everything in their power to make us feel good. We also realize how much they sacrificed for our sake, giving up their own pleasures. However, inside each person has at least 1 resentment against their parents for the fact that they did not give something, did not support, in some way they did not show their love and attention.
Do you want to check it for yourself? Take some time and observe your feelings and emotions.
Close your eyes. Introduce yourself and your parents. Feel and experience all the pictures that come to you. Observe what is between you and your parents. An object, person, energy may appear. It is important to observe what is between you and your parents:
- if it is an object, what it is, what are its colors, where did it come from in your life, who it might look like or with whom this object is associated;
- if it is energy, what color it is, what density it is associated with;
- if this is a person, who is he and what role he plays in your life and the life of your parents.
Also look at yourself, what age you are. Feel the emotions that arise within you in relation to this object / person / energy, as well as the emotions that you feel for your parents because of this.
The answer is within us.
It is important to understand that you have a right to the thoughts, feelings and emotions that arise from feeling lack of love from your mom. You can experience them because you have a reason to do so. It doesn't matter what they are. These reasons are absurd to you as an adult, but very significant to you as a child.
And the most amazing thing is that when we allow ourselves to accept our resentments, thoughts, emotions and feelings towards our parents. When we admit to ourselves that dad, sisters, brothers took mom away from us. It is at this moment of recognition that we feel how much we want our mother's love, and how much she loves us.
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