2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How to identify a hidden narcissist?
No way!
And this is the tragedy of the "object" of his attention.
We all know from mythology that the narcissist fell in love not with himself, but with his own reflection. Therefore, for self-admiration, he needs a "hanger" - a person to whom he attaches the "mirror" of his projections. And also another person, in whom, as in the trash, dumps his hated qualities.
The hidden narcissist can be a kind, modest, pleasant woman. She bakes buns, distributes them to neighbors, goes to church, and regularly tithes.
And no one realizes that there is a person [for a narcissist one "victim" is enough] on whom she hangs [projects] those qualities that she denies in herself - aggression, envy, greed, and so on. The woman changes the reality of the "chosen one" [gaslight] by accusing him of all HIS sins.
The "object" does not know that he is being emotionally and psychologically raped. Only he feels that it is very difficult for him, is pursued by a constant feeling of guilt, he often wants to cry or even run away.
But a sense of duty is still rigidly attached to him as a narcissist.
Many "victims" do not understand what is happening. Feel hopeless. Therefore, they often get stuck in psychosomatic diseases, addictions [alcohol, drugs, games].
The "victim" is just one of the family [husband, child, daughter-in-law]. Roles change if the "subject" has left or left the family. For example, a beloved child can turn into a "scapegoat".
The narcissist carefully conceals the dark side. He always puts on an "image" - so that no one would guess about its essence. EVEN HIMSELF. But, the closer to the venerable age, the more difficult it is to hold the mask. It subsides more and more often. At such moments, the "face" of the abuser is exposed and those around him notice it. The narcissist gets angry, restrains aggression, but one day he cannot cope with emotions and shows his true self. And in the future, it can periodically "attack" openly.
He cannot love. Not yourself, not your partner, not your children.
If you are around such a person, the best way to take care of yourself is to break up with them.
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