2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
Recently, psychology has been popularized, psychological knowledge is penetrating the broad masses. Of course, the Internet, TV shows with psychologists, psychologists' channels on YouTube contribute to people's interest in psychology and make information more open and accessible. During the consultation, it became not uncommon to hear from clients references to someone's authoritative statements. But not all of them are "useful" - so, sometimes negative, intimidating statements of psychologists are passed from mouth to mouth, perceived, alas, as the ultimate truth. And people believe, take it into their heads, forgetting that psychologists are people too, and their opinion can also be subjective and not always justified. Alas, in the vastness of our dear b17, I notice how on the forum, in articles, colleagues can "nightmare" site visitors, potential customers. I don’t know - either I’m so “lucky” to notice, or such a tendency is emerging: to predict a repetition of a negative situation, simply because you have already got into it.
For example, you are in a personal love relationship with some "bastard" - a sociopath-psychopath-tyrant-narcissist. Unhappy with this, you suffer, he torments you. And in the topic (if you have opened a topic, ask for help) there will definitely be someone who will itch: “you are responsible for everything that happens, you are hopeless - another man will be the same, or even worse, in general, he will break your spine, he will sell into slavery and make him disabled.
In the articles, you can also stumble upon support for the idea "everything is bad and it will be worse": if your husband hits you in the face today, the next one will be the same, with the only difference that he can hit both in the face and in the kidneys.
The highlight of the program is my favorite phrase “you will attract the same one”. Probably, we live in the kingdom of magicians, where "pulling" someone is practiced. Why waste time on trifles! So close to the concept of "materialize in space, using a beam-transporter", as in the fantastic film "Star Trek". Have survived.
Yes, if a person is repeatedly interested in and enters into a relationship with one type of citizens, and this relationship turns out not to be good, but to a fingal under the eye and other delights, then of course here we can assume that he is acting out this scenario for some reason, for some internal reasons (and here a lot of schools put forward a variety of hypotheses). And if he does not cancel this "repetition system", does not deal with himself, then - yes, there is a possibility that "the next partner will be like the previous one, a scoundrel." However, only a probability, not a given.
But if in your life, dear readers, there is no repetition of a negative situation, it is single, then there can be no question of any forecast. Remember the statistics: the graph is not plotted at one point.
So, in my practice, there have been and still are cases in which, roughly speaking, the first husband is a scoundrel and scum, and the second is a wonderful person. Therefore, the distribution of the above forecasts by specialists unsubstantiated and there is nothing more than a generalization of special cases related to cognitive errors of thinking.
I do not pretend to be the ultimate truth, but I observe the consequences that such predictions are likely to create "client hysteria":
a) the case is not cyclical, but in itself a negative forecast “it will be worse further” may well trigger a self-fulfilling prophecy.
b) a person begins to believe that he (she) is to blame for everything. And to ascribe to himself responsibility for what other people who have appeared in his life do and behave. Although, this is nothing more than another cognitive error of thinking, the illusion of control (the tendency of people to believe that they can control or at least influence the outcome of events that they cannot actually influence) - which psychologists, in theory, they can indicate and thereby relieve the client of it.
c) some clients have a wild idea that they have to work something out there, go through lessons, "become enlightened and grow spiritually in suffering", or not see "happiness" for them … The medieval church says hello, not otherwise.
d) it turns out that someone somewhere can determine and know which partner will be the next in the client's life. What is even possible. I am impressed by such superpowers, to be honest … As if there is a system that calculates and assigns, distributes: a psychopath to Dasha, a good Samaritan to Natasha. A psychologist is a mediator who possesses "secret knowledge".
Meanwhile, if we turn to simple logic, which has not been canceled, it will become obvious: nobody is insured from communication, from meeting with a psychopath-sociopathic-pathological narcissist. JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST. And if we consider that this category of men, as a rule, can have a pleasant appearance, charm, artistry, some brightness, then it is clear that due to this they may well even win over themselves from the very beginning.
Yes, they are found, and not uncommon in our society. Regardless of your: "karma", personal characteristics, the presence or absence of psychological complexes, weight, skin color and age, place of residence, who you are and what you are.
In such stories, I always ask clients who believed in such "prophecies" - did you go to a fortune-teller? Otherwise, since when do we have a psychologist and a predictor and a psychic who knows what the client will have next and makes predictions for the future …
And to you, readers, I would like to wish more often to sift any incoming information through a sieve of common sense, independently checking for the truth or falsity of certain ideas.
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