Waiting For A Roast Cock

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Pr … Prkr … I will never learn to pronounce this word.

In general, what happens when we put off doing important things for later (until the roast cock bites).

Procrastination is manifested in the fact that a person, realizing the need to perform very specific important things (for example, his job duties), ignores this need and diverts his attention to everyday trifles or entertainment.

Procrastination differs from laziness in that in the case of laziness, the subject does not want to do anything and does not worry about it, and in a state of procrastination he realizes the importance and urgency of the work, but does not do it, perhaps finding some kind of self-justification.

What distinguishes procrastination from rest is that when a person rests, he replenishes his energy reserves, and when he procrastinates, he loses.

Most publications on this topic answer the question of why this is happening. Why, despite the importance, significance and personal interest in the result, we tend to put things off for later.

Attempts to explain this phenomenon most often boil down to finding the reasons. The reasons are approximately the following:

- self-doubt, - fear of making a mistake, - striving for excellence (fear of making imperfect), - the spirit of contradiction (rebellion), - fear of responsibility (which may increase in case of success), - other visible factors explaining why important cases are delayed.

Everything seems to be logical. But any of these reasons could well have led to the fact that things would have remained undone. However, the essence of procrastination is not about not doing things at all, but about delaying their implementation "until the last moment."

Let's try to replace the "why" question with the "why" question. Why do you need to ignore the need to perform specific important matters, being distracted by any nonsense, just to postpone until the last what is valuable and significant? What happens when we procrastinate and ignore. What we get in the end.

Anyone who knows the problem firsthand will tell you that without procrastination, he could have done what he wanted.

- better

- with less effort

- with less time

- with great pleasure from the process

- with great satisfaction from the result

- without feeling guilt and shame

- not humiliating, not punishing or persecuting oneself.

Paradoxical as it may seem, this is the goal: to achieve the fulfillment of the intended cost of extra efforts, without getting pleasure from the work, often remaining dissatisfied with the result, with oneself, having experienced a range of unpleasant feelings (from guilt and shame to fear, anger and despair).

This is how the internal prohibition system works. Bans on success, on achievements, on pleasure, on joy, on the right to be yourself, to live your life, to realize your needs.

This is a different way of looking at the problem of procrastination. He also identifies the reasons. But these reasons are deeper and less obvious. Scenario prohibitions can be much more difficult to detect than self-doubt, low self-esteem, fear of failure, perfectionism, or a rebellious desire to "spite mom's ears."

That is why various anti-procrastination techniques based on the mobilization of volitional efforts and the principles of rational resource allocation are so ineffective: the invisible cannot be changed.

And more and more new techniques of fast overcoming fight against the old bad scenarios. And again and again this “until” sounds: “What else can I do, how to cope with it. I tried all the known methods, but things are still there. I continue to procrastinate and there is nothing I can do about it ((…"

Everything is just like that. The script is a big deal. You can't take it and rewrite it in one go. This is a long and painstaking work. Not always pleasant. Difficult. Painful.

And in this article there will be no recommendations and advice on how to quickly and reliably get rid of procrastination at home. I do not have them.

All that I can offer within the framework of the article is to take their word for it. The fact that procrastination does not in any way say about a person that he is weak, weak-willed, lazy, unworthy, or any other "under-". She's never about that. Procrastination signals the presence of an internal unresolved conflict, an unresolved need (or needs). And it is much more important in this situation not to persecute oneself for "lack of will" and imperfection (this will only aggravate the problem), not to force by hook or by crook to fight against one's "laziness", but to try to hear oneself, to understand one's need. Show yourself at least a little sensitivity.

If there is a desire to see and rewrite a negative scenario, to deal with an internal conflict, to understand and learn to satisfy unrecognized needs, I will be glad to help with this.

Author: Eletskaya Irina Konstantinovna