2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
CAUSE PAIN THROUGH YOUR PAIN
This trait of the latent narcissist is often perplexing, so I want to talk about it in more detail.
It can be called "psychological sadomasochism".
It seems that it is only possible to hurt yourself or someone else:
📌sebe (masochism) - endure physical bullying and insults
Someone (sadism) - to intimidate, impose a sense of guilt, blackmail, gaslight, publicly humiliate
Possibly fine plexus
Narcissist - unconsciously looking for hidden benefits.
Example:
husband: sat down to work with documents at home
wife: decides to make a cake, turns on the mixer
husband: silent
wife: rattling devices
husband: begins to fidget in the chair
wife: asks for urgent help - open condensed milk
husband: breaks down, raises his voice, asks to give him the opportunity to concentrate
wife: cries, takes offense, calls her friends and tells what her husband is the aggressor
What did the wife get?
1⃣Proof to herself and others that she is a "victim"
2⃣A tool for further manipulation: the husband is driven into a sense of guilt and is really sure that he is a cruel tyrant
These are unconscious intricacies.
The woman provokes a negative reaction from her husband [hurting herself] in order to punish him [hurting him] by accusing him of cruelty.
But it can be much more serious.
The partner deliberately inflicts physical pain on himself [may cut himself, pour boiling water over, twist his leg, hit] or cause illness [does not feign, really gets sick] in order to blame the spouse for his pain.
A hidden narcissist can sit a partner or even a child without insults, humiliation, screaming or blackmail. He creates a situation in which he will suffer, suffer or hurt, so that the person next to him feels shame, guilt, pain for the suffering caused.
Fortunately, this is not common. But if you see this quality in a loved one, draw conclusions, take care of yourself, if possible - distance yourself. Since the narcissist can only be helped by himself.
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