2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Like all narcissists, the Hidden Ones are skillful manipulators, self-centered and focused on their importance so much that they seem out of touch with reality.
But they also have unique features:
Shyness
Humility
Hypersensitivity to the opinions of others
Markers of latent narcissism:
📌 Excessive sensitivity to criticism
Disdainfully, sarcastically react to comments or show themselves above criticism. But inside they feel devastation, humiliation, fury. They rely on others in assessing themselves, but instead of self-praise they tend to self-deprecation. Sometimes they are ostentatiously modest in order to earn compliments and recognition.
📌 Shyness or withdrawal
Afraid that others will see flaws or failures. Exposing their inner feelings of inferiority destroys their illusion of superiority. To reduce the chances of a negative reaction, avoid people.
It drains and leaves little energy for developing the relationships you want.
📌Fantasies of grandeur
Spend a lot of time REFLECTING about their abilities, achievements and beliefs: I will still prove to you who I am.
📌 Feelings of depression, anxiety and emptiness
Based on fear of failure and disappointment about idealized expectations that do not match real life. Failure to receive high marks from others causes acute resentment and depression.
📌A tendency to remember grievances for a long time
When they think that someone is unfair, they may get angry, but they will not show it. They are waiting for the perfect opportunity to take revenge or "frame" the offender.
📌Envy
They believe that they are envied. Outwardly, they do not express and can supplant this feeling. But they will be upset if someone gets what, in their opinion, THEY deserve.
📌 Selfish empathy
They can show sympathy, kindness, or compassion, but they do it ONLY for everyone's approval. If they don't get what they expect, they get upset and complain that they are not appreciated and "used".
📌Toxic sense of shame
For yourself and others. For what they didn't even do.
If he were capable of frankness, he would say:
I have to be like the "ideal" in order to feel normal in my own eyes. Therefore, I lie to myself and others.
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