2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
To navigate the world, to understand other people, we often have to resort to generalizations.
No, not only primitive ones, like “all men are goats”, but “women only need money”.
No one can grasp the immensity and perceive at once the entire spectrum of the uniqueness of each person they meet. We need landmarks. It is important to understand trends and patterns.
It's easier to trace them. than all the existing exception options.
This applies to almost everything.
There is, however, another side to such generalizations.
It often happens that even being in a long-term marriage, or in a long-term close relationship, people literally "put" on their partners their ideas about what they should like or dislike.
And a person often loses his understanding of whether he really likes it or cannot not like it, because the partner thinks so.
What is it for?
In this case, about the trends in the concept of "attractiveness".
At all times, grooming has been the most important factor in a woman's attractiveness
In different periods, different nuances were put into this concept.
For the last 10-15 years, for example, women are quite actively involved in face contouring, which, according to many men, often makes their faces look like each other.
Such an active tendency does not leave men the opportunity to rely on their opinion about the "beauty" of swollen from injections and sedentary faces.
Nobody simply asks them and does not trust their competence in assessments). According to many women, all of them should like this version of "youthfulness" by default. Because it is "youth".
Nowadays, many coaches and psychologists also talk about the "inner girl".
The fact that it is necessary to discern it, accept it, realize its strengths and learn to feel in oneself, regardless of the actual age.
However, it happens that once realizing her at the age of 35+, many women penetrate the image not only inside, but also try to pull it over themselves, despite the psychological and external inconsistencies.
Together with very bulging lips, sedentary facial expressions and indelible arrows, a specific speech with a stretch, cutesy, slightly delayed manners and a sincere hope that they are now like 18 years old, but smarter and more experienced, that is, out of competition, is sometimes implanted.
For most men, on an unconscious level, the external youth of a woman is inextricably combined with naivety, ease, play.
Women who are actively involved in invasive face tuning often do not realize that they are sending conflicting signals to others. Outwardly imitating youth and freshness, they often amaze with excellent analytical talents, sometimes a complete lack of naivety and super adult knowledge of key issues of the world order. And these qualities usually come in the same package with maturity, from which ladies so diligently run away.
In men, this often causes cognitive dissonance and feelings of deception.
From the point of view of psychology, the image of the eternal "girl" is a common neurotic manifestation
Staying in it is both work and an escape from your real self and an attempt to arrange everything "in a smart way".. finally.
The natural process of aging becomes a source of fear, neurosis, and constant employment with the elimination of visible and imaginary age-related changes … sometimes only from the outside.
35-45 year old girls shudder in fright when someone in the street calls them the word "woman".
Young woman! and only a girl! - regardless of actual age - this is the goal of serious financial investments, injections, bruises, painful and not always safe procedures.
“Looking good” is becoming synonymous with being an eternal “girl”.
The most striking dissonance is often the combination of a highly tuned face with a not at all young energy.
After 35-40, it is difficult to imitate the interest or naivety inherent in early adolescence. And where there is no lightness, interest, naivety, play, well-filled lips are no one will be able to deceive.
Each age has its own unique advantages, feelings and characteristics. Its charm, originality and value.
In an indiscriminate pursuit of other people's bonuses that are not characteristic of your stage of life, you may not notice your own and one day realize that instead of improvement, you get distortion, and a "super well-groomed" face, no longer completely your own, or even not your own at all, unlike the old beliefs and not at all well-groomed thoughts, for example.
And vice versa, not the most youthful appearance can shine with a special inner charm, when there is no conflict between the visual and the inner in it. When there is self-acceptance, self-love, interest in the world. And well-groomed. of course, well-groomed
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