Comparing Yourself To Others

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Comparing ourselves to others is very dangerous for ourselves. We can never be 100% like someone else. If we compare ourselves with someone, then we forget about ourselves. We devalue our uniqueness, originality and authenticity.

Most often, at best, we are frustrated by comparison, at worst it brings experiences, suffering, dissatisfaction. We get angry when others compare us, and immediately try to prove something (sometimes we do this all our lives). Then why do we do this to ourselves?

The more we focus on who we compare ourselves to, the more we begin to compete with him.

Of course, we cannot avoid the comparison process. However, we can learn not to harm ourselves with this.

If we compare something tangible:

• We need to think about our relationship to money. If for me “money is evil”, “money spoils people”, “money = others use me”, then in this area, most likely, there will always be problems. What does not come to us, to which we are subconsciously negatively disposed.
• We can also be lazy.
• We can be picky about our place of work and are constantly unhappy with it.
• In general, you can earn money to meet material needs. Others are not responsible for this area of our lives.

If we compare what is associated with our personality, individuality, in this case it is more difficult to achieve what others have. However, by observing a person and learning his reactions to something, his philosophy of life, one can comprehend his wisdom. At the same time, we move away from our own inner world. It is important to take care of yourself and relate to what is in us, so as not to lose our own uniqueness and not be absorbed by another.

When we like something in another, and in our perception we are not good enough, or we lack something, perhaps we do not see something in ourselves. You can ask loved ones to write about our merits. If we had the qualities inherent in a person with whom we compare ourselves, it would not be us. In this case, we turn a blind eye to our charms.

The best thing we can do for ourselves is to compare ourselves with what we were a month ago, six months, a year. Whether we are changing or not. Are we reaching the goal. Where are we now. Are our dreams and desires coming true. Are we better at overcoming difficulties? Have we improved our relationships with loved ones? Have we learned to accept ourselves so as not to compare ourselves with others.)))) Have we learned to give what is important to us.

This is not just an analysis for each of us. It is also an opportunity to think about how we achieved this and what is valuable in our life today.

We cannot possess what others have, therefore, comparing ourselves with them, we are not acting correctly in relation to ourselves. But it is very useful to compare the “tools” (knowledge, experience, wisdom) that we use in every day. Exchanging them, applying what suits us personally, is a guarantee of a qualitative comparison of oneself with another.