2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
This is a letter to the One who cries quietly by the window, waiting for the cherished steps of her beloved … The one who patiently waits and believes that Good will overcome Evil, and a fairy tale will come true … The One who hopes for honesty and loyalty in a relationship …
It's about idealization again.
This is a situation where the relationship seems to be there, but it seems to be not. He visits her once a week. She meets him with a delicious dinner, exquisite appearance, coziness, comfort, warmth … She gives him all of herself without a trace. After all, it is so important and valuable to take care of him, love him, give him all of yourself..
He talks about business, gets distracted by calls, gets annoyed, answers in his native language, and she … suffers … and loves … and his native language seems to her the most beautiful in the Universe.
Now he will wrinkle his forehead funny, furrow his eyebrows … God! And now he smiles … His profile, aquiline nose, hands … She breathes it, if she had wings, she would cover him, protect him, would not give him to anyone …
He will never tell her that the dinner is delicious, although she tried to decorate it with the most exquisite spices, he will never say that she is a sexy, desirable, beautiful woman … He is cold and laconic. Wise and cruel.
He'll just have lunch or dinner, and sometimes even "No! I won't eat, I said I'm not hungry, so I'm not hungry" … however, he will agree to a cup of coffee with buns with ginger and cinnamon, prepared by her small, delicate hands …
She considers the minutes of intimacy to be a Gift from Heaven … She would not let him go, but … He leaves …
This is not a film script, not a fairy tale … It is a reality.
A sad story about how a young and beautiful woman got stuck in idealization … idealization on the verge of deification. No no! I don't need anything from him … everything is enough for me. He is with me, he loves me …
How do you know what he loves?
Loves! I can feel it! Loves, just … Eastern men should not show their feelings ….
The idealization of the chosen one, the projection of one's own feelings onto a person, onto a man who only periodically uses a woman for his needs.
Have you tried talking about your relationship?
No no! What you?! You can not do it this way. You can't ask that, he will be offended …
Where did you get it?
I know him!
Manipulator?
No, what are you … He is different, vulnerable … He is thin …
And so it went on for about a year …
Until one day she waited for him at the appointed time … Where is he? Who is he with?
No answer.
A few days later, in response to her pleas to explain what happened to him, a dry text message “I will not come again” came.
And this idealization was the hardest in her life. She had never felt so bad in her life …
What helped her to pass this difficult exam? What helped to overcome and overcome suffering and pain in a broken heart?
Love
It is love
Many colleagues have written about Christmas today. And following our respected colleague Alevtina Serdyuk, I would like to emphasize her words about Christmas as a metaphor for the Birth of Love. When you are abandoned and not appreciated, the main thing is to preserve this amazing ability to love …
After all, a lot depends on you.
If you go into a state of anger, comparing the man who abandoned you with everyone else, believe me, you will not get rid of either suffering or injury …
Unfortunately, many people live like that. Insulting all men, trying to see in everyone their old offender, these women become bitter and lose the most important thing - their femininity …
No, I'm not talking about the need to love everyone in a row or not to protect yourself from enemies, but here we are talking about preserving this Gift.
Keeping love in your heart is a powerful and great resource. And no matter how offended, trampled, humiliated by your beloved, it is this Gift for you that can survive the most fierce bad weather …
The gift of love is a manifestation of self-care. After all, even protecting yourself from a person who wants to harm you, you guard the boundaries of your personality, realizing your love for yourself.
I gratefully accept the Love of the Universe
In the most difficult moments of your life, you do not need to go into destructive categoricalness with insults and humiliation of all men and your beloved, even more so.
After all, he was once your choice …
Was present in your life and influenced you.
Your paths diverged, but life goes on..
The awakening of love for oneself is an extremely difficult, time-consuming process, especially after realizing that your beloved man has underestimated or depreciated you.
But the more you work on yourself, cultivating love for yourself, the world around you, your home space, homeless tails, people in need, the more love and compassion there will be in your Soul …
Be Blessed with Love
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