2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I am now a happy fifty-year-old woman. Of course, young, I was, but beautiful and slender, in the classical sense, I have never been!
This "never" does not sound like a sentence now, as in childhood, when you are considered the ugliest girl in the class. Moreover, all the stories about ugly ducklings, which then stretch out and become slender swans - this is not my story.
The duckling was so fat and awkward that after a three-month severe diet and inept jogging at 6 am during school holidays, having lost more than ten kilograms, he gained a weight equal to the last two digits of his small stature. And in his student years, after enormous hardships, he could barely fit into clothes of size forty-eight.
I was such a duckling until I went to study to be a psychologist, and this was my second education. At the Pedagogical Institute, I was very similar to the heroine of the film "In love of my own free will" performed by the talented Evgenia Glushenko.
By the way, having watched it for the first time just then, in the late eighties, while still a student at a pedagogical institute, I began to put into practice the advice of the hero of this film, brilliantly performed by Oleg Yankovsky:
Yes, everything is cognized in comparison, and it is very important not to find objects that are completely inappropriate for comparison with oneself.
Probably, if I began to compare myself with the mega-popular fashion models during my youth and various winners of beauty contests, from such external data that nature has awarded me, you could just lay hands on yourself?
At the beginning of the film, the heroine, like me in my youth, exclaims:
- Why do I have these eyes, this forehead!
And at the same time, slowly changing not only internally, but also externally and in her life, over time, comes mutual love.
Little by little, changes began to occur in my life.
Now I admire another actress, who is also somewhat similar to me in height and build. Irina Pegova, 40, reminds me of me ten years ago. True, I didn’t have such a pretty face.
By the way, despite the special texture, this talented actress always plays women with a rich personal life.
Probably because men are far and not always looking for a woman with a model appearance for a serious relationship?
And the unforgettable Natalya Gundareva, being a donut, managed to take other people's husbands away!
Do a simple exercise
And answer your questions:
- Is external attractiveness so important?
- Is it possible to create it with your own hands, having your external data, just with a little effort and extortion of laziness?
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