2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When communicating with different people, you begin to notice not only their differences, but also what makes them similar, and that is not at all in the shape of the nose or the shape of the eyes. One of these unifying features can be safely called how people perceive information that does not correspond to their beliefs and understanding of good and evil.
Most people consider their own beliefs to be perfectly correct. And following them, people evaluate the surrounding reality. In a huge number of cases, reality receives a negative assessment, since it does not correspond to the expectations of the person himself. But this is half the trouble, it often happens that a person begins to worry about this discrepancy.
This process can be very dragging on, it also happens because a person in these experiences draws himself a picture in which he is in a more favorable light. Indeed, in his assessment, he is right, and someone is less right, and accordingly there is something to praise himself for. But despite this, assessments of what is happening from the point of view of total correctness lead to the fact that a person begins to accumulate negative.
We all live in a society that is governed by certain laws and moral rules, and their violation is fraught with unpleasant consequences. If, for example, in a store there is a long line at the checkout, then the person does not like it, but he restrains himself, this is the first drop of negativity. At this moment, someone is trying to pay, a purchase without a queue (perhaps something without change), the person's indignation grows, because, according to him, everyone should be in a queue. To the one who violated this order, the person clearly will not feel tender feelings, and this is still a drop of negativity, because the person restrained himself and did not say anything, and if he did, then most likely he did not receive the expected reaction. And when his turn comes to pay, then the cash register runs out of tape for checks, and if the cashier did not have a spare and she needs to leave for it, then the person experiences even more negativity, but still holds back, because there seems to be no reason to make a scandal, it's a matter of everyday life. But after all, in a short seven to ten minutes, a person has already accumulated a certain amount of negativity in this way, and add to this that everything is not so at work, and the person considers the boss, to put it mildly, a nit-pick.
The negativity, the reason for which is mainly the assessment of a person, has been accumulated, but it is impossible to throw out this energy in the store because there are the very limitations of society, and also the conviction of the person himself that it is impossible to swear and conflict in a public place, this is how my mother taught.
A person goes home, he is filled with completely non-positive feelings, some in such situations allow him to break down at home, thus getting rid of the accumulated negativity, but here, too, an ambush after that, the person begins to understand that he has acted incorrectly, and again experiences. And without unloading all that load of negative experiences, a person is forced to accumulate them. This is often the cause of many psychosomatic illnesses and psychological problems.
The way out of this situation is to abandon evaluative thinking. At least on the grounds that people are different, and what is important, we never know in advance what led another person, what goals he pursued, or what circumstances prompted him to take some action. And it's not about justifying rudeness or ignorance, but about preserving your own health and not causing yourself unnecessary inconvenience. There is a wonderful phrase "If you cannot change the situation, then there is nothing to think about and worry about." Understanding that it is impossible to remake the people around you can greatly facilitate life.
Live with joy!
Anton Chernykh.
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