2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
UNFASHIONABLE LOVE
Modern man is afraid to love. A modern person knows everything about fashion, about how many calories are in a piece of white bread, about how to pump up a beautiful figure in the gym - and if it doesn't work out, you can hire a doctor-zhirosos and remove all unnecessary things.
A modern person knows how and where to make money - he does not always know how, but he knows for sure, because in the environment or on the TV screen there are always people who row this money with a shovel.
A modern person listens to audio lectures, watches videos on YouTube and knows all the fashion trends - how and where to live and relax, which school to send children to, at what age to marry or not to marry at all …
A modern person often suffers not from a deficit, but from an excess, especially an excess of ideas, that he needs a lot of different things to be happy …
For example, get a third master's degree. Or go to a spiritual teacher. Or earn some more money.
That's just a problem with love (((It seems like nobody needs it …
The other day I was leading a seminar on love and read in the group a piece from the epistle of the Apostle Paul to the Corinthians: “Love is longsuffering, merciful, love does not envy, love is not exalted, is not proud, does not rage, does not seek its own, does not get irritated, does not think evil, does not rejoice unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; Covers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, endures everything”.
The group got excited and said that the lyrics sounded somehow so-so … Strange … Not clear …
I thought: why? Perhaps because it contains all the "demons" that frighten modern man.
Longsuffering in the modern world is often interpreted as masochism.
Mercy associated with old women feeding cats, and with various archaic works in which the victims beg their executioners: "Have mercy, be merciful!"
No envy - bad manners, now it is customary not only to envy, but also to admit their envy, and also to describe all aspects of the desired. Say, I want me to have this, and this …
Don't be proud - and how else to appropriate the results of achievements? How not to say: “Who is the good fellow? I'm done!"
Do not rage - what about freedom of choice and other authentic behavior? Well, at least a little …
Do not be annoyed, do not think evil - it is generally difficult, now any psi-beetle and toad are taught to "be yourself" and "express your real feelings." And if you are angry or planned to take revenge on your partner, for example, because he did not hear you, offended you, did not understand, they will support you and say: “You have the right”.
Do not rejoice in untruth difficult: the truth is not in price, because it often causes too strong feelings, everyone wants peace. Try to tell the truth, for example, to the parents of an addict - they say, you are to blame, you invested in your child, but not that one … They will be upset, offended, disagree … Or tell a woman: your marriage is doomed, you carry everything on yourself, even your students do not respect you at school - he will be very offended … Therefore, a delicate varnished lie is better - it costs much more. This is taught in special trainings such as "The Art of Manipulation".
Cover everything, believe everything, hope and endure everything - well, a portrait of a codependent is emerging. More precisely, co-dependent, because the overwhelming majority of them are women. Why - read feminist studies.
So it turns out that love is not in fashion, not in trend and not in price. Too many “nots” were written by the Apostle Paul … It is too difficult to love …
But all we need is LOVE. The child most of all needs the mother's love, and if this flow of love, in the language of constellations, is interrupted, the child begins to look for substitutes. Simulacra. Something for which you can love him.
And we are trying. We reach. Learning. We are working. We smile falsely. We are trying to become someone who has something to love.
And true love is as simple as the day of a Zen master. When he is hungry, he eats. When tired, he sleeps. When he is cold, he collects brushwood and makes a fire.
When a person loves, he simply loves. Not for a pretty face and perfect figure. Not for high wages. Not for achievements. He tolerates, restrains, appreciates, tries to improve relations, does not consider the other as worse or better than himself, accepts him, believes in the best …
True love is exactly what the Apostle Paul wrote …
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