The Husband Does Not Allow Injecting Botox, Etc

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The husband does not allow injecting botox, etc

The husband does not allow … and further continuation of this article can be made infinite in meaning. Husband doesn `t allow … And further down the list: injecting botex; shrink the nose; hem ears; put braces on your teeth; do blephoplasty; prick collagen and hyaluron; go to concerts; stay late at work; attend refresher courses; shorten, grow or dye your hair; go to the gym or pool; go on business trips; wearing short skirts / shorts or long heels; use jewelry or costume jewelry; use red lipstick; go to visit friends; dieting, losing weight / losing weight without agreement; sunbathe in a solarium; do tutu or piercings; have an account on social networks, communicate with men - work colleagues, shop assistants and even doctors; use a taxi or car sharing; watch soap serials; call home a "master for an hour" - a plumber, electrician, IT specialist, furniture assembler, etc.; The list can go on for a couple more pages.

Relevant? Yes, more than … Such stories are very common in the practice of a family psychologist. Subsequently, such a certain number of quarrels, grievances and claims are wound on them that there are already serious conflicts that can even lead to leaving, betrayal and divorce.

What is behind all this, who is to blame, what to do? Let's figure it out. Of course, the easiest way to explain all these prohibitions of husbands is male complexes. They say, these husbands never grew up, remained at the level of memories of when they were 18-20 years old, and they lost in the competition for women to older, more high-status and wealthy men. And therefore they are still very much afraid of competition. They are afraid that some other men will be interested in their wives, and their wives will be flattered by it. Therefore, they say, you need to tell the husbands to rebuild their brains to a new reality, not be afraid of anything, trust their wives and do not prevent them from living in accordance with the standards of the current women's fashion.

As a psychologist, I fully confirm the correctness of this explanation of the conservatism of husbands. Of course, all this is based on men's youth complexes. But understanding this still will not help anything, if you do not take into account other features of male psychology. And I'll tell you about them now.

What they say to me at the consultation themselves men, which, in the opinion of the wives themselves (the husband does not allow)? Usually, there are five arguments. Here they are (I apologize in advance for the harshness: I'm just quoting my male clients verbatim):

5 reasons why Husband doesn `t allow:

1. The HUSBAND DOES NOT allow, because the Wife used to mercilessly criticize those kinds of actions that now, you see, she wants to do herself

For example: “My wife used to always condemn women with silicone breasts, pumped lips and cheekbones, tattoos, piercings, bright lips, etc. She called them prostitutes and kept women. She said that everything is done only in order to attract rich men, and decent married women do not need this. And now she has suddenly completely turned her position over! All the examples, whom she now points to me on TV or from her friends, were previously considered "bitches" and "women with clumsy show-offs." So I think: maybe she herself had another man in mind? She will be tempting him at my expense ?! For my money, he will work out in the gym with a personal trainer, pump his breasts with silicone, pump out fat, and then someone else will get it! I need it?! Of course not! So let him live as she lived before. With age-related defects, but on the other hand, mine!"

2. The HUSBAND DOES NOT allow, because the Wife previously poorly characterized all the women around her

For example: “The wife herself told that all women - her work colleagues - are unfaithful to their husbands. Or right at work, or on business trips, etc. How can I now calmly look at her delays at work, advanced training or business trips ?! " Or: “My wife herself told me how her close friends meet men on social networks or in a cafe, and then sleep with them. And after that, she wants me to let her go with these whores to a cafe, to a concert or to one of them at home? Am I sick ?!"

3. HUSBAND DOES NOT allow, because the Wife does not pay due attention to her responsibilities in the family:

little sex with her husband, poor cooking, problems with the child, life is neglected. For example: “The wife wants to invest in improving her image. This, of course, is good, but what will I win specifically, my husband ?! As I have not seen sex and borscht, cleanliness in the apartment and the success of children at school, I will never see it. Her cropped nose, straightened lips and sewn-on ears (etc.) are no substitute for cleanliness, dinner and intimacy for me. What is my interest and my benefit in the fact that she will be looked at by other men and envied by other women, and I can barely beg for sex from her? There is definitely no interest! Let him first make me a happy husband, and only then we will talk …"

4. THE HUSBAND DOES NOT allow, because the Wife has taken too abruptly to change her life

For example: “My wife started to change everything radically: she went to the gym, went on a diet, cut her hair, changed her wardrobe, pricked her lips … Moreover, I personally did not demand anything from her. And specifically in our relationship, nothing has changed from an increase in her overall activity: there is no more sex, it doesn’t come out to people with me, etc. Life shows that such harshness occurs only when a woman falls in love or wants to move to a higher social stratum. Moreover, in the latter case, again, through the bed. Of course, this worries me. Therefore, it is necessary to prevent such changes in her when I lose her."

5. HUSBAND DOES NOT allow, because Fears for the family budget and the health of the wife

For example: “My wife used to tell me how dangerous all these cosmetic and plastic procedures are for health … Oncology happens, blood poisoning, inflammation, etc. About the fact that doctors and cosmetologists deliberately add clients to the fact that then every month they would run to them for new injections and procedures, become addicted, like drug addicts, and bring them money. Therefore, now, I feel sorry for both the money and the health of my wife. At the dacha, the fence looked askance, you need to buy new rubber for the car, and she will spend this money on expensive botex, collagen and hyaluronic acid! I will not let it!"

This is how it sounds more or less correct. What do we see from here? What can we take to normalize the situation in those families where wives are trying to follow new trends in fashion and beauty, to be more independent in their lives and careers, or simply want to maintain their attractiveness with additional efforts and technologies? I give simple and clear advice for women:

First. Create a positive image for your future image!Build a good reputation in the eyes of your husband for those women who are examples and guidelines for you in those changes in your appearance and life that you have in mind. Characterize them well. Emphasize their reliability, success and decency. Thus, you will not cause your husband to associate unpleasant and offensive for you with those women whom you yourself criticized. Do not tell about your girlfriends and colleagues at work that can be negatively applied later by your husband in relation to your own personality! If you can create a decent and correct image for those whom you want to imitate, it will be easier for your husband to accept your move in their direction.

Second. Increase the comfort of life with you for your husband!Would you like to ask for something or increase your own freedom: remember that the way to a man's heart lies through a saucepan, bed and his pride. Start cooking more often and tastier, be proactive and active in sex, stop quarreling with your husband and start praising him. When a man is completely happy with you, he will not see a threat to himself in what you do with your appearance and life. Moreover: realizing that he will only benefit from all this, and a more successful and beautiful wife will not be somewhere out there in other people's offices and in coffee houses with her friends, but in the arms of her husband on his own sofa, the spouse himself will support you in everything. …

Third. Prove that your innovations are not so expensive and do not skimp on your husband!The easiest way to agree with your husband on additional spending on your changes is to invest in the husband himself first. Update his wardrobe, allocate a budget for his hobbies and affairs, you can be sure: your spouse will subsidize your image upgrade without any problems. In addition: do not rush to tell your husband the true cost of certain procedures or the amount of investment in your life growth. Practice shows that women always have the opportunity to save and save. Therefore, until the moment when your husband sees you in all the glory of a new image or career and personal success, do not frighten him with the amounts spent. Reduce real costs by referring to promotions, friendly discounts, special programs, etc. When, after some time, your husband appreciates and admires you, you will have the opportunity to increase your budget quite legally.

Fourth. Reassure your husband by not giving cause for jealousy. Do not repeat the frequent female mistakes when a wife who has become more athletic, has made herself plastic or has grown up in a career begins to tell her husband who gave her a compliment, who began to pester her, who gave flowers and sweets, etc. Eliminate this and unnecessary communication on the phone and social networks. With all your behavior, show him that everything that you improve in your appearance and your life is for him: your only and beloved husband! It is with him that you go out for walks, in shopping and entertainment complexes, dine in restaurants and visit the gym. For him, you buy beautiful underwear and get romantic tattoos, for him you change the haircut, hair color and everything, everything, everything. (Further down the list). And most importantly: it is with him that you show yourself in bed and it is for the realization of your family goals that you strive to become more beautiful, healthier and make a career.

Remember: in our life, as well as in politics, there is a “rule book”, where first you work for her, and then she works for you.

Reputation is more valuable than money and any vows and promises.

Reforms are always easier to carry out with a spotless reputation.

As I say:

Remove all your husband's fears - for your sake

he will take off his last shirt.

You will beautifully take off your shirt - he will put a fur coat on you.

Or else like this:

A man will dress a woman in a fur coat and jewelry then,

when he is sure that he will be the only one to remove all this from her.

There is nothing more to add.

Fifth. Make your husband share in your changes for the better!Remember: family is togetherness, partnership and synergy. Therefore, be sure to ask your husband's advice in your transformations. Thank him for his opinion, even if you do it completely differently. Always emphasize its importance in your success! Even if he was against everything in the world. Point out that it was his criticism that prompted you to great things and that you always felt his deep interest and support. Remember the truth of Zberovsky:

Flattery and gratitude, even if they are undeserved,

usually turn out to be the advance that people want to work out.

This is a powerful tool not only in business life, but especially in the family. If you are able to patiently and competently create an atmosphere of belonging in the family and the obvious usefulness and profitability of all your changes for your husband and family as a whole, you will be able to move indefinitely. And your loved ones will only support you, even if they were initially against it.

Family psychologist Zberovskiy A. V.