Who Stops Losing?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Do you ever find that stopping or pause in the usual rhythm causes anxiety?

It's not just about the current unscheduled "vacation", where the escape scheme has bumped into 4 walls.

But also about all the moments in which, stopping or freezing, you immediately look for an application for yourself.

That she has sat down, I still have to do this and this. When are you going to start this? Look in the mirror, it's time to start exercising and take care of your wardrobe. And again I didn’t read the books, and I didn’t do the cleaning normally, and you don’t really do anything with the child, and you waste time at work, you suffer from garbage. Come on, lazy ass, do something already!

You can sit, of course, but only by grasping the phone, a mug of tea with a liver, or the TV remote control.

There are also advanced comrades - they grasp fitness, healthy lifestyles or study / marathons / projects.

If only not the emptiness, from which the feeling of guilt and fear of being left is not the lot.

People are afraid to breathe out, stop and, at least for a while, stop raping themselves with incessant deeds and occupations. Why?

You will not hear any options for this question - I will become a homeless person, everything will turn away from me, my life will be meaningless, I will turn into a pig, degrade, I will feel like garbage, I will let my mom / dad / husband / children down, they will be disappointed in me, they will be considered garbage, I I will be left without money and die, I will go into a binge, a spree.

Eternal Vacation - A Good Definition of Hell George Bernard Shaw

The problem is that you already, deep down, feel like a bum. And run FROM, but not TO … From a feeling of worthlessness, badness or weakness, and not to a bright future.

But, as they say, you can't run away from yourself?

True, during the race, a lot of good things happen - you achieve something, develop, have a status and a comparative characteristic in your favor.

But not to run indefinitely. Take a break. Stop. Look around and check directions. Move one step, if necessary, then turn back.

I made such a stop during the January holidays to actually check who I would turn into. I like it.

So what do you do? Is it possible to stop or not? And for what?

You need to stop in order to:

- to share anxiety, need for rest, rethinking of life and depression. In the first case, stopping, slowing down and "doing nothing" will improve your sense of self and life in general, in the second it is important to take care of yourself and choose a feasible pace to get out of a difficult state. - identify disturbing thoughts. What are you afraid of, for whom do you feel guilty and for what, why should you not rest? From superficial, automatic thoughts, he will gradually draw an ornament of your "truths", which is high time to check for truthfulness and appropriateness. - to realize and analyze your needs. Sometimes, we run and run fast to get the right to rest. Love and respect. For recognition. We just forgot to clarify the conditions for issuing prizes. So we run and run. - work on deep beliefs. Good work, often long work. Who I am and what I am entitled to. There are many tears and pain here. And at the same time, internal freedom and the right to choose are born. Run, lie or sit. Where, with whom and why. - revise the rules and regulations. Rules in our life come from experience and observation of loved ones, are absorbed from childhood and become axioms. The child takes them for granted. An adult can specify, apply at his own discretion, or even rewrite. Who are you now?

Try not to run away from yourself, but to look in for a visit and get to know better.

A pause, like a litmus test, shows the state of your inner world. Whether you are comfortable with yourself or not, you can withstand yourself outside of roles and vigorous activity or not, peace within you or chaos and fear.

If you can't cope - contact us.