Why Does A Woman Hurt A Man?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Often in conversations about relationships with men, women complain that they do not have enough male attention. At the same time, ladies want not only to be noticed and reckoned with. They need to see the man's reaction, by which they understand that they are not indifferent to the man who is next to them. Moreover, if a woman does not see such a reaction or does not want to see, she begins to strive to achieve it by any means.

To achieve this goal, women often hurt a man, cause him aggression, provoke him into a quarrel. After that, they feel satisfaction, because they received evidence that they are not indifferent to a man. A woman understands perfectly well that she hurts a man, but at the same time she also understands that if a person is in pain, then he is not indifferent to her.

Such a model of behavior, not always a whim of a woman, it so happens that this model was acquired in childhood. This happens when a girl does not receive enough positive attention from her parents. In other words, she was little praised for her achievements, since her parents believed that it was harmful to over-praise a child, she would suddenly become selfish. At the same time, any misconduct of the girl caused an invariably violent reaction from close people.

Little by little, the girl, who, of course, wanted her parents to pay attention to her, developed the belief that attention can be quickly achieved by committing a conditionally bad deed. The girl grew up, became a woman, but the conviction remained.

And over time, it did not disappear, the lady did not outgrow him, and did not change, even when the dependence on the attention of her parents weakened. Sometimes, a woman quite sincerely believes that such a way to attract attention to herself is the most effective. Only now in this way she communicates with her man.

Quite often, men are perplexed by such treatment from a woman, while they continue to react violently to such attacks of a woman. Until a certain moment, the life of such a couple is quite predictable. She provokes, he reacts, she receives confirmation that she is not indifferent.

But, as you know, nothing lasts forever. And there are two options for the development of events. The first, not at all cheerful, a man gets tired of such actions and provocations on the part of a woman and leaves her. Of course, the woman did not want this, but the man has already accumulated enough negativity and fatigue from him that he simply does not have more strength (energy) to continue such a relationship.

The second option is more interesting. The man begins to understand that he is being teased and caused his violent reaction for some purpose. It happens that a man does not even understand the essence of this goal, however, his behavior changes dramatically. He no longer falls for the woman's emotional pricks. In his reactions there is no more aggression, he is calm, because he understands that he is being hurt on purpose, when there is no need for it.

A woman feels and sees such a change immediately, but she cannot understand why. The behavior pattern that had worked for so long suddenly broke. She is at a loss. And, of course, the first thing a woman thinks about is that she has become indifferent to a man.

Here, then, the woman herself becomes unwell, self-digging begins, self-accusation, which, in fact, does not lead to anything. And instead of honestly talking to a man, a woman strives to make a scandal again, but on a far-fetched occasion, plus women so relieve internal tension.

It has long been known that by hurting a person, it is impossible to force him to treat you with love or tenderness. But relationships are initially created in order to experience these very feelings. At the same time, it is better to avoid checking the feelings of the other, especially in this way, more benefit, in my opinion, can bring a frank conversation.

Live with joy!

Anton Chernykh.