2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When all the spears are broken, the irritation has passed and there are no more arguments left, when the emotions have subsided, and there is even no offense for incomprehensible, unfair insults - you decide not to deserve anything from this person at all - neither bad nor good. Somehow you decide by itself - let him go berserk, this is his battlefield, his seething ocean.
You just need to move this childish sandbox of passions away from you, it doesn't bother you anymore. And offensive, cruel words begin to bounce like peas against a wall when you do not take their negativity onto yourself. It becomes so calm when you finish this dance with another, in fact, already a stranger to you.
One more point is important here. As Freud said: "Before you diagnose yourself with schizophrenia, make sure you are not surrounded by idiots." And here too - you should not hang on yourself other people's projections of the victim, the harlot, the queen and God knows who else, born in the fevered imagination of a man. It's not you, so why even respond to abuse, react to manifestations of clearly uncontrollable aggression and rage?
Moreover, these alarm bells have sounded more than once. And you are well aware that similar situations were cloned in this person and with other people. There is no need to run anywhere, on the contrary, it is comfortable to sit in your familiar habitable space, and start just living for your own pleasure. Continue the work you have started, create, laugh, enjoy life, and not at all for show, not in order to hurt anyone with this.
It's just wonderful and wonderful to live, especially without a background figure, who for some reason has given herself the right to control your every step, evaluate your behavior and actions, criticize your friends, get into your environment and try to devalue your work.
It is not necessary to allow this to be done with oneself, but it is also not worth noticing - why waste your energy on the wind? You already got nuts from this relationship, so enjoy yourself in pleasure in the absence of them.
How do you react to criticism and hyper-control from your partner, especially the former?
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