2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Someone will answer yes, you need to feel sorry for yourself.
And someone will say that pity dampens.
Both will be right, since there is harmful and useful self-pity. Useful is compassion that allows you to accept the situation and find the strength to move forward. Empathy helps you get through the pain and build up resources for later life. Therefore, it is short-lived.
And the feeling of self-pity from the position of the Victim is a very destructive emotion that does not lead to anything good. In this case, all efforts to do something are reduced to zero. In some cases, the person doesn't even try. believes that he will not succeed.
Often a person who has self-pity loses faith in himself and his strength, ceases to fully interact with others. Indeed, at this moment he does not adequately perceive what is happening.
There are two main reasons for self-pity:
1. A person finds himself in a situation of hopelessness and a state of powerlessness, when he understands that he is not able to do anything to change the situation.
2. Underestimation by a person of his own strengths and capabilities.
But there are also simple explanations for the reasons for self-pity: physical pain, resentment, injustice, oppression, careless and insolent attitude on the part of others, humiliation, shame, melancholy, remorse, etc.
Self-pity is detrimental to our psyche. It imperceptibly destroys not only our health, but also our relationships with loved ones, with colleagues and with the world in general.
The more we feel sorry for ourselves, the more we believe in what we think of ourselves.
What can help change this attitude towards yourself?
Well, Firstly, it is the realization that now I feel sorry for myself. Because when we are not aware of our emotions, then we cannot control them. As a result, they begin to control us and influence the quality of life.
Secondly, it is a desire to change such a stereotype of behavior.
Thirdly, determine the root cause. A person often feels that something is wrong with the world and sees the root of his problems in the people around him.
Answer the questions:
Why do I feel sorry for myself? What do I do when I face difficulties?
Fourth, take responsibility for their actions. Start managing your own life.
Answer the questions:
How am I doing now? Who is running my life now? Can I change the situation in my favor? What actions can I take to achieve this right now?
Understand what is going wrong in your life and how you would like to change it. Start building positive thinking in yourself and have fun with your life.
After all, as you know, what we think we feel, what we feel we radiate, and what we radiate we receive.
And remember, self-pity is the path to depression!
If you are faced with a similar problem and cannot cope on your own, then you can seek help from a specialist.
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