2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Of the two words success or failure, we prefer the former anyway. However, this couple always walks alongside. Let me explain why.
Once my friend said this phrase: "Gods do not burn pots." She said in such a situation that inside I felt a surge of strength, energy, resources and strong motivation. And it’s true! It just doesn't work out that way.
Failure causes discomfort, disappointment, discouragement, and self-esteem lowers. Naturally, such sensations, experiences and feelings arising inside are very unpleasant for us. We want to get away from these as quickly as possible. To get away from this discomfort, we look around at the experience of other people, read books, sign up for courses, trainings, seminars, and ask ourselves questions.
This makes us want to fix everything, and change something. Of course, our attitude to the process of achieving the goal plays a significant role here. How much we believe in ourselves, and make a decision to move on or stop.
Some business experts say that failure is growth. Failure is followed by a state of seeking opportunities and solutions. I really love these states. They open up a lot of new ideas, directions, suddenly the necessary information appears. Often in this state, I got to some kind of webinar, and then to courses. Or my creative part started to work.
By not accepting the loser within us, we reject our successful part. Every successful person has periods in which something goes wrong, has reached a dead end, a state of lowered hands, constant oversights, etc. How did he feel? I certainly didn't think about my success. Did he say at this moment that his business is not important? - Hardly. But then, having reached a new level, such people understood that the deeper the pit of failure, the more strongly one can push off from it in order to jump to the top. Therefore, as long as there is a feeling that I am a loser, the strength for development lives in you.
How to support yourself in the “I am a loser” state:
- Accept this state, be in it, and there is no escape from it.
- Look at the part of yourself that does not give up and at least tells you "go ahead", as much as offers opportunities.
- Tell yourself "I need to be in this state, it will give me new ideas, show me the way."
- Ask yourself the question: "how can I solve this problem", or "what should I do to achieve the goal", or "what else I have not tried to do from the methods I know."
- Notice any information that comes to you. As a rule, such periods are very rich in information from outside.
- And of course, know that if you feel a loser in yourself, then a successful person is 100% in you.
And finally. Having made a decision to follow the chosen path, it is very useful to stop from time to time and look at the starting point. Failure will then seem like a routine action in the process. And further. Once I gave such a recommendation in one of my articles. Read biographies of famous people. They describe the path they followed. This is very inspiring. Failures made him stronger and hardened.
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