Are You Feeling Bad Or Bored? Eat

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I think everyone in their life has had such a case when you wander into the kitchen, absorbed in your thoughts. Then emptiness and now, you are already chewing on a piece of sausage left over from the sandwich you gnawed

You are not to blame. You didn't want to eat. You are just thinking.

In fact, physiologically, there is no need for food at this moment, you are full and the body does not require additional fuel. Then what do you want, man?

Food is often perceived by us not as a source of energy for life, but as a pleasant pastime. So we cook something delicious, decorate the dish beautifully, set the table, sit down and … What? This is just the snag, we do not take fuel for the body, but turn on the TV, our favorite TV series, talk with loved ones, solve some issues. And at this time we automatically eat. We are not able to clearly track how much food has been eaten, we are simply busy at this moment with other things. And at some point, meals are already associated with events, relationships, impressions, psychological state, and, in the end, we don't even remember if we had dinner.

Remember your acquaintances, some of them probably say, “I don’t eat anything at all, it’s not clear why I’m getting fat”. And often this is no slyness, they really do not consider it food, and sometimes they really do not remember that they have already eaten a couple of rolls and three pieces of ice cream.

I will try to reveal the reasons for this behavior in several stories.

Story 1.

Katya was the happy wife of Arkady, she sat at home, waited for her husband in the evenings from work. An ordinary family, husband and wife, sat down together in front of the TV every evening and dined. Katya cooked well, her husband was pleased, praised her culinary skills and bragged to friends.

And then he left her for Lariska, it doesn't matter to us for whatever reasons, he simply left Katerina's life, leaving her with borscht and freshly baked dumplings. And now we see the following picture. The evening, the TV turned on and a woman chewing on a bun, who did not want to eat something, and, in general, had already had dinner earlier, but the meal itself is associated with that wonderful time when she is not alone, when her Arkashka is with her, when she receives from him the recognition of his talents.

Story 2.

Andrey is an office worker and a single man. He visits a fitness club once a week, meets with friends once a month. Well, sometimes, at different intervals, he goes on dates. When Andrey is asked a question about a hobby or hobby, he gets lost and frantically tries to remember what is so exciting he does in his free time. And the answer is still not found.

Because a typical Andrey's evening takes place on social networks, computer games and near the refrigerator. It can be boredom, just eating to keep you busy. Or maybe, on the contrary, there are things to do, but I don't want to deal with them. For example, you need to call a nice colleague and discuss a monthly report, but calling is terribly inconvenient. And, perhaps, Andrei will soon turn to a psychotherapist and realize that he is “eating up” his loneliness.

Story 3.

Lena and Marina are bosom friends. They meet once a month in a cafe and chat about this and that, discuss men, scold the bosses, gossip about acquaintances and brag about new clothes.

And one such evening Lena talks about changing her job, in this regard, she dyed herself a blonde and she, such a beauty, drew attention to Eugene himself, an enviable groom and part-time, Lenkin and Marinkin, a former classmate. And so Lena tells so enthusiastically about her successes, Marina listens and just gasps and groans. The girls go home and here the fun begins.

Marina, after listening to her friend's stories, comes home and begins to empty the refrigerator. And not because she is hungry, but because she, poor thing, needs to "seize" her terrible insult. After all, she wants an enviable groom, Eugene, and she wants a new job, too, and it is so insulting that Lenka, the reptile, gets everything, but she doesn't care. And so the resentment leads her to the refrigerator and says: “Eat, Marinka, you still have nothing, so at least feed me. Well, let you be fat, no one needs you anyway!"

And in the next house lucky Lenka is cracking a chocolate bar. After all, her job is new, because she was flooded with the old one. And at the new job, the boss is a tyrant and the salary is lower. And Zhenya, a classmate, a bastard, slept and did not call anymore. And she dyed her hair - because the gray hair appeared. And Lenka is ashamed to admit this to her friend, it's easier to lie. Only this shame then comes and says: "How did you lie to your friend, what kind of person are you, okay, so be it, eat a chocolate bar - it will feel better!"

And here the girls are sitting and talking with resentment and shame, and not with each other.

In this article, I only touch on some of the psychological aspects of "seizing", their identification in each specific case and further assistance - this is your job, often together with a psychologist or psychotherapist.