2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Feeling on top of feeling or ambivalence often occurs when the feeling that is hidden is suppressed.
Very often in script therapy, I work with the client's repressed or forbidden feelings. How to define the phenomenon of "feeling over feeling" read below.
How often have you had to laugh to tears or turn purple with fear?
It's terrible when forbidden feelings are suppressed
“This is awful!” My Client exclaimed every now and then, describing situations in which she should feel frustrated, resentful or angry.
The only terrible thing about this for me was that she lived for many years without feeling anger, from the word at all.
The phenomenon of "feeling over feeling" occurs when one feeling, forbidden or suppressed, is replaced in a person's speech by another feeling.
Remember the last time you yelled, "Oh, horror!" - what did it really mean?
- It's terrible, like fear. Your husband was fired from a well-paid job, and you have been sitting with children for 5 years. What will happen to you, oh, horror !?
- It's awful, like a delight. A friend has just arrived from the resort and over a glass of brandy told you about her love adventure.
- It's awful, like outrage. You were walking in the park and saw a lady with a dog walking across the lawn, and you know what they didn’t remove.
- It's terrible, like pain. A child of your acquaintances fell from the attic staircase and broke his leg.
- It's terrible, like joy. You exchange glances with your accomplice as you finish eating a birthday cake for two, which was intended for guests, smiling rather.
- "It's horrible!", once again exclaims my Client, who took off the Rescuer's pink glasses and realized that no one needs her on her own. Exclaims and wondering at herself she starts to cry … Sobbing and can't stop. According to her, she has been in prostration for six months and does not feel any feelings.
The ambivalent feeling: "Oh, horror!" like suppressed anger
Often in my work, I deal with suppressed anger, fear, sadness, or even joy.
Dual feelings: what is pronounced is not equal to what is experienced.
Inadequacy.
- I'm so afraid of my husband! The next Client turns red, her neck is covered with purple spots, her jaws are tense. She punches her knees hard and rhythmically. Is she afraid? No. She is furious. But the anger is suppressed. It is banned. Therefore, the feeling of fear replaces anger. Fear over anger.
It's horrible! To utter one feeling when the heart breaks from another.
It's horrible! Be inadequate for many years. Be not equal to yourself.
It's horrible! Suffer and not seek help from a psychologist!
I will also write about forbidden feelings - the topic is very large and too significant to tell and mark all the important points in one publication.
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