2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Disobedience, fears, anxieties and whims that cannot be relieved at a young age, unwillingness to go to kindergarten or school, difficulties with school performance, conflicts in relationships with parents and with peers in older children and adolescents - this is an incomplete list of problems that causes worrying parents.
In what cases are these manifestations the norm, and when is it necessary to consult or undergo a course of psychotherapy?
Try to answer the question: How often and how long have the child experienced difficulties? Although the norm and quite a conditional concept, nevertheless fears and other difficulties pass along with the growing up of the child. If this does not happen, i.e. the child does not cope with the problems or difficulties of tasks corresponding to his age on his own - this is a reason to consult a specialist.
Difficult life events, be it: divorce, death of a close relative or friend, moving to a new place, serious illness of parents and other events - can lead to trauma that delays the development of the child. In the event that the child's behavior is of concern, it is also advisable to seek help.
Why is it difficult for parents to ask for help? Many people may think that the task of the psychologist is only to point out already known problems. And then the consultation looks just like torture with no hope of any change due to:
§ strengthening of feelings of guilt, tk. they did not cope with raising a child and solving their own problems - and now they are forced to sort out the consequences;
§ loss of control over the feeling of anger and anger at their parents, because in raising their child they did not manage to avoid the mistakes of their parents;
§ fear of appearing weak and helpless in others' and own eyes, as well as in the eyes of a child;
§ thoughts that they or the child are too bad or the problem is too complex to count on any changes, because they have already tried everything themselves.
In fact, there is some truth here that no one can solve problems that have been forming for several years in 1 meeting, but 1 consultation is one step towards understanding the causes of the current situation and discussing in a safe environment ways to overcome it.
How can a psychologist, psychotherapist help a child?
§ Help express fears and difficulties that bother you through play or creativity.
§ Understand the causes of events in your real life and family life, as well as the feelings that they cause.
§ Learn to deal with discouraging feelings the child is experiencing or having difficulty accepting rules and constraints.
How can a psychologist, psychotherapist help a teenager?
§ Realize the meaning of your life, the purpose of life and the feelings that cause changes in life.
§ Understand the reasons for your behavior in your real life and family life, as well as the feelings they cause.
§ Learn to build partnerships from an adult-adult perspective, not just an adult-child perspective.
§ Learn to cope with disturbing experiences and feelings that a young person experiences when faced with new challenges.
How can a psychologist, a psychotherapist help parents?
§ Help manage feelings of guilt and anger for more effective parenting.
§ Become aware of their own patterns of behavior that can cause problems in behavior or well-being in the child.
§ Understand the child's symptoms and ongoing changes in the child's behavior through understanding the child's world.
§ Clarify the parents' own problematic interactions and their interactions with the child.
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