2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Everyone has probably heard about the Pareto principle. In short, it sounds like this: 20% of the efforts give 80% of the result, and the remaining 80% of the efforts - only 20% of the result.
This law works both in economics and in everyday life. A person is inclined to first of all notice his shortcomings and only then his merits. And, because of this, it often turns out that a lot of effort is spent on eliminating the flaw (or what a person considers a flaw). A man fights with his dragon … without armor and sword … while in the cave of this very dragon! The first factor is difficult and often ineffective. But that is not all. There is also a second factor. Having achieved a result in such a struggle, one can realize that … everything was in vain. The dragon has been killed, but it did not bring any pleasure.
For example. One person graduated from the university and went to pick up his documents, which he handed over upon admission. And so he stands like this with his certificate in his hands (which he has not seen for six years) and thinks - what have I been doing here all this time? His certificate has excellent grades in all subjects, except physics and English. And he studied for six years as an engineer - where 90% of the subjects are different physics, and 90% of the useful information that can be found is in English! He defeated the dragon! He was even given a diploma about this victory. Honours! But they did not give out pleasure and love for their specialty. Only a temporary sense of self-affirmation. Which is clearly not enough for many years of pursuing an unloved profession.
So why such a craving for perfection? Why do we want to fix all our shortcomings, and not improve what is already good? While getting maximum pleasure. What is the motivation?
You can imagine two types of it - motivation minus / zero and motivation zero / plus. In the first case, a person concentrates on his weak side and tries to bring it to at least a neutral state. Spends 80% of his efforts on this. And even in case of success, he does not always feel satisfaction. It's just zero, nothing special. In the second, a person works with his inclinations, skills, talents and strengths. Everything is much easier for him. He spends 20% of the effort and gets the full return. Goes to the state - plus!
There are many reasons for choosing the first motivation - from upbringing to striving for a certain socially approved role. The bottom line is almost always the same - a lot of effort and little result.
So many people get stuck in the first kind of motivation! In the eternal struggle against windmills. Where the main goal is to reach a state of neutrality, to zero. Under the eternal motto "get out of the comfort zone". Without thinking about the fact that in order to get out of it, you first need to understand where it is with them and learn how to enter it! How can you go beyond what is not?
What happens when a person concentrates on his strengths, on what he likes, what brings pleasure. Well, in a simple way - on what comes easily to him. Well, for a start - to understand what a "comfort zone" is, how it looks and how one feels in it.
Well, then, instead of leaving it, try to expand the boundaries of your comfort zone. On that colossal resource, which was obtained in zero / plus motivation, it is precisely possible to overcome difficulties and achieve results.
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